This letter is for you, you whose only existence is to be at the disposal of other people. You that is having a hard time and afraid of putting yourself first. You that’s feeling guilty about removing toxic people from your life. You that’s always making room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. You whose other people’s lives, problems, and wants set the course of your life. This letter is for you, you that is exhausted with trying to be stronger than you feel.
Your happiness matters! Do what you need to do to be alright. Take care of yourself before taking care of others. Self care is not selfish BUT it’s okay to be selfish when you need to be. It’s selfish on its own to expect others to put you first. Focus on loving yourself. Be proud of your talents and ambitions, and don’t let anyone discourage you or tear you down. Find your worth and hold on to it.
If your relationship is in a blessed mess and there are more reasons to leave than to stay. Then don’t be afraid to be selfish, don’t be afraid to put yourself first, don’t be afraid to call it quit. Don’t be afraid to choose your happiness and safety over someone else’s. Don’t be ashamed to admit that you are done eating lies just because your heart is hungry. Say yes to yourself and never be afraid to put yourself first, because sometimes, all it takes to get rid of the burden on your shoulders is to get rid of the people holding you down.
When your life gets a little rough or if you encountered a closed door, don’t cry and don’t be afraid to put yourself first for once. If you need some time to pray and reflect about your situation take it. Whatever you’re worrying about can wait. You can’t help others until you help yourself.
When you lose focus, never be afraid to put yourself first. No one is going to prioritize your needs and wants like you can. If you need to seek solitude, do it. If you need to reflect on yourself, do it. If you need to pamper yourself, do it. Sometimes you just have to do things that you feel are necessary for your spirit and that’s OK. Putting yourself in other peoples hands almost always leads to disappointment.
If you are heart broken, take time to heal. You’ve been through a lot, and the road to recovery is a long one. You cannot be afraid to put yourself first, no matter how difficult that may be. Stretching yourself too thin makes you not good for anyone. If you aren’t taking care of yourself, how can you expect to be around for others? So stop holding on to those rare good moments, those beautiful memories that once were and leave that toxic relationship/friendship alone. It will not get better and you will remain in a constant self-destructive cycle. Don’t put yourself in pieces to replace someone’s broken parts.
Until tomorrow, do what’s not only right, but best for you — Don’t be afraid to put yourself first, to grow into the person you want to be. Do what makes you happy — It’s your life. But before you save anyone else, learn to save yourself — you can’t rescue everyone. So go ahead and make your own decisions and take your own risks. Listen to your inner voice and be fair to yourself. Take care of yourself in whatever way you need to, you owe yourself that. Be picky about the energy you surround yourself with, you owe yourself that much. Whatever you do, do not knowingly allow someone to make a fool out of you. You owe yourself that much. Sort yourself out FIRST. You owe yourself that!
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