This letter is for you, you that is letting a bad breakup cause you to stray away from God. You that’s letting a bad chapter stop you from having a great story. You that’s allowing a bad situation and experience to paralyze you with fear and to define your journey and your entire life.
I’m not a very good one to give advice; but one thing I know for sure is that there are always going to be bad calls, bad experiences, bad words, bad energy, painful moments, or missed opportunities that will change your entire world in a matter of minutes. Don’t allow them to define you or change your God given purpose. Don’t allow them to tarnish, diminish or ruin the blessing of a day. Move on to the next play and be who God created you to be.
Proverbs 23:7 says, “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” Don’t let a bad start in life determine where you finish. Don’t let it put you off. Don’t let a bad moment turn into a bad day. Don’t let a bad day convince you that you are going to have a bad life. Everything is temporary and you should therefore make the most out of every moment and out of every circumstances. Good things happen when you remain positive in negative situations. Let what will define you be how calmly you deal with every form of adversity.
If you are having a bad moment or a bad day and circumstances have kept you in a dark place right now, don’t be discouraged irrespective of how darker the darkness grows. Every day is a fresh start despite what happened the day before. There are 86,400 seconds in it. Don’t let a bad 10 seconds ruin the other 86,390! Don’t let a bad day or a past life make you feel like you have a bad life. It doesn’t matter what has come your way, endure with hope and dig deep, despite the odds being stacked against you. Don’t let the numbers get you down. We all have bad days — but as long as you enjoy what you are doing and have fun, that’s all that matters. A bit of self belief and grit will see you through.
Romans 4:18, 20 KJV says, Abraham believed in hope against all hope, that he might become the father of many nations. We are told that Abraham staggered not at the promise of God through unbelief; but was strong in faith, giving glory to God. Understand that you have come too far to give up now and no matter how messed up you are right now, your messy life is not a surprise to God. No matter who or what is against you right now, your situation is not a surprise to God. His Word concerning you is His final authority over that situation. Nothing that happens to you is a surprise to Him. So don’t ever let a bad situation, turn you into a bad person. It doesn’t matter how badly your parents or anyone has treated you, don’t let their actions become your entire story. Don’t ever let a bad attitude or negative attitude hold you back. Don’t let a bad moment get you down. Don’t let a single instance make you frown or trick you into believing you’ve had a bad life. Leave that baggage where you found it and stay the course on purpose!
In my last letter to you, I reminded you that not everyone is going to appreciate your love. Never allow that to change the way you love someone else. Just because someone has done you wrong doesn’t mean you should have trust issues. Give everyone the first, second, third and fourth chances that they deserve. Don’t let a bad person change you or turn you into a monster. Don’t let a bad previous relationship or situation you went through mess up what you have going for you today. Don’t deprive someone who has done nothing to you your love. Don’t let a bad person or situation change who you are. You are not that person. Don’t let a bad experience with someone gets in the way of a good possible future with someone else. Don’t let it ruin your perspective on love and relationships. I understand that being hurt repeatedly can turn a loving person like you into a dreadful monster but don’t let it be the lens through which you see everything else. Never let a bad breakup make you think you aren’t worth it. Don’t let it define you and don’t allow it makes you forget how beautiful you are. You are good enough.
As you read this letter, you may be saying to yourself, “How I wish it was that easy”. It happens all the time but don’t let a bad road slow you down. Don’t let it define your journey. Do not give up just because life gives you obstacles. Don’t let a bad experience at a former job, impact your attitude for the next opportunity. People will hurt you, they will leave and betray you without any explanation but people will also always love you and stay loyal to you no matter what. Don’t let that blessed mess get you down or get your business to a halt. Think of how far you’ve come and let it convince you that your hard work was worth it. At all times and in every circumstances, try to find the silver linings, find the things that make you laugh, without letting the small things ruin your life.
In your journey of life, self-love, healing and improvement, never stop forgiving people, because people change and that’s expected. Never stop forgiving people, no matter how much they hurt you. Forgive them and forgive yourself for what you never saw coming, that caused you to question if life has been fair to you. Forgive yourself for trusting the wrong person and those that walked out of your life. Forgive those that left the love you both share incomplete. What matters most is how you heal from the unexpected heartbreaks. Forgive those that are spreading rumors about you. Let them talk, let them talk you down, and let them question you and ask where is your God. Don’t prove to them how you have made it through your situation, but prove to yourself you’re better than what people say you are.
On a final note, you must remember that your enemy is the devil and not those you think are responsible for the issues that are before you. Don’t let a bad breakup cause you to walk away from God. Shake it out and keep pressing in His Word and towards His promises. Don’t let a bad religious experience be the reason for throwing out everything that matters in life. You serve a good God who is working things together for your good! Don’t let all that’s going wrong cause you to question His faithfulness or keep you from acknowledging the blessings you receive daily. Don’t let a bad attitude block your blessings. Don’t let it cause you to second guess what you’re expecting. Don’t let it cause you to question your God given purpose. In spite of the trails Job went through, he still trusted GOD (Job 13:15). You can do the same too.
I am confident that you can still remember how sometime ago we talked about how you survived what others have died of. That’s how you are going to survive this one too. Don’t let what you see with your eyes or feel with your emotions make you throw in the towel. Don’t let it steal your joy in the Lord. Rest in Him for there is so much to be thankful for. Remind yourself that Jesus is awesome in spite of the trails and tribulations that has been coming your way. He is praiseworthy in spite of the trials! Turn everything over to Him, and He will give His angels charge over you.
I don’t know how soon I will be able to send you my next letter but until then, always remind yourself that life goes on. Despite all the evidence to the contrary, we are told in Romans 4:18 that Abraham’s faith enabled him to “hope against hope”. Let that be your attitude in that situation and never forget that everyone, I mean everyone, fails at something at some point in their lives. Learn from your failures and let them make you a better person. If you can’t change the whole book, turn on a new page and start afresh. Make realistic, achievable goals and smash them. Bury every past mistakes and take life by the horns and turn things around. Don’t let a bad day or a bad year make you throw in the towel. Rest in God and continue on in spite of your trial. If you won’t give up, He can turn the ashes of what you’ve gone through into beauty for His display.
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