I saw your email and I am so proud of you and what you have reached by yourself. Your perseverance and strength despite problems, criticisms, and gossip are worthy of admiration. Now that you have known how to get ahead and be stronger than ever before, I am writing to you today in a duality of purpose. First is to let you know that every day is a new day with new difficulty and opportunities. Not everything and not every drama around you deserves your time and attention. Times are changing and it has become very necessary that you do whatever you can to live a very good life so that your nights won’t be full of regrets. You have to become careful with what you say because your words have incredible power! Use them right otherwise you will be snared by them (Proverbs 6:2).
Every word that you speak this year is a seed. Don’t dig up your seed by speaking against your faith! Don’t speak sickness over your life. It will surely kill you. The more you talk about that sickness, the closer you are to death. Don’t speak failure over your relationship or marriage. It will surely crash and fail. The more you keep saying nothing good will ever come out of that relationship, the sooner it will come to a painful end. Don’t destroy your seed by gossiping about others. Don’t allow words of defeat or negativity come out of your mouth. Most importantly, avoid drama and gossip around you because it comes from an unhealthy heart and it’s a sign of immaturity. When you gossip, nothing good comes out of it rather it blocks your blessings. Badmouthing someone only exposes your ugly side. It doesn’t make you the better one. When you do it to someone you once claimed to be in love with, it shows how immature you are. Each time you remember anyone, rather than gossip about them, you should pray for them instead. Look for the best in others and build them up. Choose healing words over gossip.
One of your new year resolutions might have been to avoid drama but let me warn you that drama has a way of finding you if you are not living a purposeful life. That’s why 1 Thessalonians 4:11 (TLB) says, “This should be your ambition: to live a quiet life, minding your own business and doing your own work, just as we told you before”. When negative thoughts come to you (because they will), don’t speak them out; instead, speak life. Speak hope. Speak blessing. Speak what you seek! Speak the Word of God.
Do whatever you can to stay away from people who love to gossip or badmouth others to you and people who have a thirst for drama. Never be a party to badmouthing someone irrespective of how they have treated you. It goes a long way to affect not just the person being bashed but the family, relatives and friends are also affected. Stay away from people who can’t understand that people have feelings, and they can’t control it. When people come against you and they’re jealous, trying to make you look bad, trying to discourage you, be like Jesus, refuse to answer them (Luke 23:9).
Stop reading about people’s sin just so that you will have something to gossip about. Save yourself from troubles and don’t allow your lips to become a stumbling block. When you gossip, it leads to broken trusts and it hurts people’s feelings. It can destroy family, marriages, job, wealth and self-esteem. When you gossip, it drains you spiritually because the people in your life aren’t the source of your problems, the forces of darkness are (Ephesians 6:12). When you gossip, you break confidentiality. Show people that you are trustworthy. Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Proverbs 11:13 (TLB) says, “A gossip goes around spreading rumours, while a trustworthy man tries to quiet them.” Don’t start it and don’t entertain it. Mean what you say and keep your speech plain and honest. Ephesians 4:29 (TLB) says, “Don’t use bad language. Say only what is good and helpful to those you are talking to, and what will give them a blessing.” Never allow others to sow seeds of discord in your heart because the one that is gossiping with you cannot keep secret and should never be trusted. Proverbs 20:19 (TLB) says, “Don’t tell your secrets to a gossip unless you want them broadcast to the world”.
If you have to burn bridges to avoid drama, do it today. If you have to say no to people to avoid drama, say so. If you have to cancel a plan to avoid drama, do it. If you have to stop copying every trend to avoid drama, do it. If you need to manage your emotions because you’re opinionated, temperamental, and always need to have the last word, do so. If you need to keep your mouth shut while drinking to avoid drama, do so. If you need to block anyone on social media to avoid drama, do so. If you need to keep your faith larger than your fears, do so and let it be your lifestyle.
Do whatever you know will keep you from dramatic people and situations without any apology. While you might not be able to avoid all the drama that life will throw at you, avoid those who bring it! If you have to separate yourself for a time then so be it. It doesn’t matter whether people think you are cold and arrogant when actually you are just trying to avoid their drama. Stop having sleepless night because of the negative things they are saying about you. They didn’t equip you, empower you or anoint you; Almighty God did!
I don’t know what they have said against or about you that you feel obliged to defend yourself or let people know or hear your own version of the story. If you’re the target of rumours, don’t retaliate and don’t go hiding from the world. Not everyone will believe you even if you were to show them a recorded video of the actual events. So don’t try to fight back using the same rules with which they used to lie or gossip about you. That notwithstanding, it’s only a matter of time for the person who started the rumour to eventually hurt his or her own reputation in the process. Make up your mind today, to release every person that has badmouthed you, criticized you or tried to discourage you. Choose to forgive them; choose to turn away from that distraction. Choose to focus on Him and the blessings He has in store for you.
That’s not to say you should keep quiet when people speak against you. No! A thousand times no! What I am saying is that you must respond to them using a different set of rules because words are powerful, a war of words is, therefore, spiritual and not physical. Isaiah 54:17 (KJV) says, “No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment THOU SHALT CONDEMN. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD”.
What this is saying is that you have a responsibility to respond to and condemn every tongue that rises against you BUT you should never respond to the physical person. You should only respond to the Spirit behind the person that’s causing them to either accuse you falsely or gossip about you. Take your issues to God in prayers. Lastly, when others gossip about you or when you fall into various trials, James 1:2 says you should, “count it all joy”. Whatever you do, good or bad, people will always have something negative to say. They may try to take you down, but God will use their actions to take you up. Refuse to play up to them or try to win them over, just keep your eyes focused on what God has for you.
The second purpose of this letter is a reminder for you to surround yourself with people who influence you in a positive way. Say NO to every negative voice trying to tell you that “It’s not going to happen for you. You’re not going to have a great year. You know what the economy is like.” Or, “You’re never going to get well. You saw what the medical report said.” “You’re never going to get married. You’ve been single so long.” Refuse to listen to that negative voice! You may be addicted to something that’s about to destroy you right now, but God calls you free. You may be in debt and hiding from the world, but God calls you prosperous. You may feel weak today, but God calls you strong.
Turn away from discouraging voices and never allow anyone to define for you who you are. Your definition is in His Word and not what people call you. Be like David who “…turned away from Eliab…” in I Samuel 17:30 and went on to defeat Goliath. David was a champion because he knew which battles to fight. He knew when to turn away from discouraging voices. Don’t allow anyone to talk you out of the life that God has called you into. Keep walking the Word knowing that other peoples’ opinion of you is their problem, not yours.
If you ever want God to take you to the next and higher of level success in life this year, you cannot continue to be a weakling either can you continue to surround yourself with the wrong people. Today more than ever before, surround yourself with people who bring the best in you. Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher because that is the life God has called you into. Surround yourself with things/people that make you happy because happiness is a choice. Surround yourself with people with healing energy. Surround yourself with people who will listen to you attentively, and offer a helping hand when you need one. Surround yourself with people who will try their best to understand your struggles. Surround yourself with people who will encourage you to pursue your dreams and goals. Surround yourself with people who will drag you to the house of God and not away from it. Surround yourself with people who nourish your soul. Surround yourself with people who see your value, and remind you of it and most importantly, be that kind of person.
That’s not all, tell your fears God is still on the throne by staying away from people with negative vibes. That’s right! Stay away from people who drain your energy and ignore any opinions that don’t enhance your life. Stay away from people who try to bring you down just because they feel worthless about themselves. Stay away from people who constantly make you doubt yourself and make you feel like there’s something wrong with you. Stay away from people who blame others for their actions instead of accepting responsibility. Stay away from people who try to diminish your peace because of the drama going on in their own lives. Stay away from closed minded people who don’t know that God’s favour can take you where you could not go on your own. Stay away from people who don’t understand life from your perspective especially those that think you are ordinary forgetting that you were bought with a price.
Until tomorrow, always remember that if you’re going to be all that God has created you to be this year, you can’t continue to focus on what everybody else thinks. Instead, live like you have His favour, think like you have His favour, talk like you have His favour, walk like you have His favour, and dress like you have favour because you actually do have His favour. If you lose some friends because you wouldn’t let them control you, they were never your true friends. Thank God that He is placing you on your path of success.
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