This letter is for you. You that’s allowing your pride get the best of you when it comes to your relationships. You that’s allowing your pride control how you act towards the ones you care about. You that’s allowing your pride have control over your life. You that’s allowing your pride or ego to be your downfall. This letter is for you, you that is allowing your pride hold your relationship hostage.
I am sorry I haven’t sent you any letter in more than two weeks. One of my new year resolutions is to start doing more things that will make me forget to check my phone if I am to have a year of BALANCE and REST, RESTORATION and INTIMACY. I also want to enjoy the time God has given me here on earth. Most importantly, I don’t want to ever lose myself again trying to keep other people warm and happy even though that won’t stop me from remembering the time I have lost when I had people in my life with so much pride.
If you are reading this letter and your heart is filled so much pride, I want you to know that it’s a habit you need to drop if you want to nurture your relationship with anyone. Pride is a relationship killer that has destroyed many. As a matter of fact, your friendship or relationship with anyone will never work out for themselves if you can’t stay humble and open-minded. A prideful heart can make you lose good people, lose a loved one, lose your marriage, lose your job, lose a job opportunity, lose money and if possible your life.
If your pride is getting the best of you in that friendship or relationship, I want you to know that it can be restored with a sincere apology if ONLY you will humble yourself. Don’t allow your pride to take over your purpose. Proverbs 11:2 (CEV) says, “Too much pride can put you to shame. It’s wiser to be humble”. Don’t allow your pride to overcome your discipline, it will lead to someone getting hurt. Proverbs 13:10 (CEV) says, “Too much pride causes trouble. Be sensible and take advice. “. Stop allowing your pride block your blessings or to be so big that it devalues your dignity. Proverbs 16:18 (CEV) says, “Too much pride will destroy you”. Stop allowing your pride to have control over your life. Proverbs 18:12 (CEV) says, “Pride leads to destruction; humility leads to honor”.
If today you’re committed into a relationship, put your pride aside. It won’t cost you $0 to be humble. Besides, you shouldn’t be there if you can’t humble yourself. Don’t allow what happened in your previous relationship to repeat itself. Humble yourself and be open for change. It doesn’t matter how far wrong you have gone and it doesn’t matter how beautiful, wealthy, or educated you think you are, if you need to apologize to anyone, apologize and mean it. If you feel like there’s something wrong, then be brave, be strong, and ask. If it needs explanation, explain it. Don’t always wait for the other person to make the first move. If you miss someone, let them know. If you have to ask for help, ask for it. If you need to say you are sorry to your children, do so to help them heal. It will not only help you to become a better person, it will allow you to move on and help you to heal too. Saying you’re sorry to someone can be a very difficult thing but it’s important for you to always put your pride aside. Don’t panic and don’t keep your mistakes to yourself. Accept responsibility and take action. Apologize and learn from it. No one can use your flaws against you once you accept them.
Do you need to say, “I am sorry” to a coworker, spouse, partner, good friends, family and to God Himself? Do you feel the need to say to anyone, “I am deeply sorry”? Sometimes all they want to hear is for you to acknowledge that you have inflicted pain or wronged them by saying that you are sorry.
Sometimes you only need to say, I am sorry. I am sorry I gave up on you, again. I am sorry I yelled at you. I am sorry I don’t mean to be rude. I am sorry I forgot to do it yesterday. I am sorry I didn’t read the post well. I am sorry I’ve been at an all time low for me. I am sorry I love you. I am sorry I didn’t mean that, I promise to make things right. Sometimes you only need to say, I am sorry, to make things right.
Sometimes you only need to say, I am sorry I didn’t mean to hurt you. I am sorry I didn’t mean it. I am sorry I have failed you. I am sorry I wasn’t there for you. I am sorry I couldn’t protect you. I am sorry I lied. I am sorry I was wrong. I am sorry I cheated on you. I am sorry I ever doubted you. I am sorry I am not a good example. I am sorry I gave up too soon. I am sorry for not being the person you fell in love with. Sometimes you only need to say, I am sorry, to make things right.
Sometimes you only need to say, I am sorry I gave up on you. I am sorry I wasn’t enough for you. I am sorry I’ll never do it again. I am sorry I forgot. I am sorry I did stupid things. I am sorry I did stupid things to you. I am sorry I failed you. I am sorry I broke my promise. I am sorry I treated you this way. I am sorry you believed in me. I am sorry I don’t know what came over me. I am sorry I wasn’t there for you, to make things right. Sometimes you only need to say, I am sorry, to make things right.
Sometimes you only need to say, I am sorry I couldn’t be by your side. I am sorry it was never my intention to hurt you. I am sorry I let you down. I am sorry I underestimated you. I am sorry I doubted your commitment. I am sorry I ever doubted you. I am sorry I yelled at you. I am sorry I didn’t give you my best. I am sorry that I didn’t give you enough time to heal, to make things right. Sometimes you only need to say, I am sorry, to make things right.
Sometimes you only need to say, I am sorry that I did not love like you deserved to be loved. I am sorry I was petty. I am sorry that I was insensitive. I am sorry that I offended you. Whatever it was I did, I am sorry. I am sorry, I truly am. God, I am sorry I left you too. Kindly take me back. Sometimes you only need to say, I am sorry, to make things right.
Sometimes, I am sorry is all your spouse or partner wants to hear from you. Don’t allow your pride prevent you from lifting others up. The words you use can lift others up and yourself. Don’t allow your pride stop you from seeking the help that you need or from admitting that you were wrong. Do this without using the word ‘if’ and but. Do this knowing that it is possible to forgive and forget. If you need to apologize, do it graciously not begrudgingly. You will be forgiven. And if you need to forgive, forgive. It will make the other person feel so much better.
Today, I don’t know who you need to say you’re sorry to, but you do. One thing I do know though is that tomorrow is not guaranteed. Life takes unexpected turns, and you won’t always have the time and opportunity you think you have now. People leave us, and we never get the chance to make things right. Matthew 27:3-5 (NCV) says, “Judas, the one who had given Jesus to his enemies, saw that they had decided to kill Jesus. Then HE WAS VERY SORRY for what he had done. So he took the thirty silver coins back to the priests and the leaders, 4 saying, “I sinned; I handed over to you an innocent man.” The leaders answered, “What is that to us? That’s your problem, not ours.” 5 So Judas threw the money into the Temple. Then he went off and hanged himself”. Judas didn’t have the time to make things right with Jesus but you do. You have the time and opportunity to make things right with anyone. Do it today instead of waiting for another nine months. There is no time like the present. Don’t wait for too long.
Sadly, not everyone is as strong as they wish to be sometimes. Judas realized his mistakes but it was too late. I don’t know how strong you are in that situation but are you one of those struggling to say your thoughts? Are you struggling to say something nice to the person you have wronged? Do you sometimes feel like you see no reason to say you are sorry to someone too? Have you been asking yourself about how many times you will have to say you are sorry for something and to someone? Are you the type that uses weak phrases like: I’m sorry things turned out this way”, “I am sorry but”? Don’t be too hard on yourself, we have all been there.
It doesn’t matter if someone is blaming you in a situation you should not be blamed for, it doesn’t matter either if you are being told to say sorry to someone who doesn’t deserve it, please be strong and know that you are allowed to be disappointed. Romans 12:16-19 (CEV) says, “16 Be friendly with everyone. Don’t be proud and feel that you are smarter than others. Make friends with ordinary people. 17 Don’t mistreat someone who has mistreated you. But try to earn the respect of others, 18 and do your best to live at peace with everyone. 19 Dear friends, don’t try to get even. Let God take revenge. In the Scriptures the Lord says, “I am the one to take revenge and pay them back.”
As His Word has said, don’t mistreat someone who has mistreated you. Instead, humble yourself, so that God can exalt you in due season. Also, stop condemning yourself and stop hiding from anyone that you have caused so much pain to. Stop saying you know you need to say you are sorry but you don’t know how. Stop saying that your mistakes or sins are too many and you can’t be forgiven. It’s never too late to show remorse and tell the one you have wronged how sorry you are. Go back to people you have messed up with their lives and apologize. While there’s nothing wrong with running to apologise to God and the Holy Spirit because you have wronged someone, it is very important that you humble yourself and say sorry to the person you’ve wronged. And if you think you need God’s forgiveness, which we all do, it’s never too late to run back to His arms too. It’s never too late to change the direction that your life is going in. No matter how far you have left God, He will never leave you. His love is unconditional.
If you need to apologize to anyone today, who would it be and what is it for? Please don’t ruin it with an excuse or the word “but”. Go ahead and do what’s necessary. Tell him or her you are sorry with NO “but” attached. I know that apologizing to yourself is even harder, but you owe yourself an apology too. If you need to say to yourself, “I am deeply sorry”, for allowing your thoughts hold you captive, for caring too much, for holding on to people who you are not supposed to, then do so. You owe yourself an apology, for all the things you accepted and chose to deal with. You owe yourself an apology for treating yourself so poorly. You owe yourself an apology for believing their lies for so long and for thinking that you are not good enough. Forgive yourself!
If you are still reading this letter, thank you for your time. You are truly appreciated. Please if you need to forgive anyone, do so. I understand that sometimes, not everyone deserves a second chance but forgiving anyone doesn’t mean you should have them back in your life. When you forgive, you’re actually setting yourself free from grudges, hatred and emotional baggage. So stop struggling to forgive the person that made you feel like you had no dignity. Stop struggling to forgive the person that made your life a living hell for many years. Stop struggling to forgive the person that cheated on you, left you or duped you of your valuables. Stop and take a moment to breath when it all gets overwhelming.
I also do need to say that I am sorry for not writing to you frequently. I am sorry for taking too much of your time with each long letter I send to you. I am sorry if I am yet to send you a letter that’s relevant to your situation. I am sorry if I haven’t had time to respond to your email or messages. I will definitely attend to them shortly. Once again, I am sorry. This is my letter for you today. Please be open for change! Love fiercely but don’t ever be in a relationship if you can’t humble yourself.
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