This short letter is for you, you that is crying for being bullied or treated as an outcast. You that is unable to fit in perfectly in a world full of people that thrive on negativity and trying to fit in, and stand out. You that is ashamed to be addressed by your family name because of the label placed on them by society. You that is feeling insecure and lacks self-worth because of how you are being looked down upon. You that got blocked, got kicked out of your friends’ group, ignored, and deemed as toxic, and problematic.
I want you to know that it is such a beautiful thing when you stop seeing yourself by the way you have been labelled by those around you and by the system you found yourself in. You might have been labelled as awkward, or weird, or arrogant, or obnoxious, or pathetic, or short, or fat, or unintelligent, or a loser, or ugly, or a dummy all your life due to your refusal to either stick to the status quo or be “normal”, whatever it is that you are labelled with, don’t let how you “feel” control what you “do”. You are worth more than what others have labelled you as.
Have you ever been labelled as greedy, entitled, bully, cheap, desperate, whore, or taken out of context and falsely labelled? I want you to know that labels are just labels and not people irrespective of who and what you have been labelled with — they are not who you truly are. Don’t accept a name that you can’t locate in God’s Word. Don’t allow anyone to define you by your ethnicity. Don’t allow anyone to define you by your looks. Don’t allow anyone to define you by what they can see now for no one is qualified to define who you truly are except for your creator, your Father, God.
If you have been seeing yourself as an outcast because of the number of times that label has been put on you, stop seeing yourself that way and start seeing yourself in the light of God’s Word. Those self-doubts, insecurities, and lack of self-worth are not who you are. You are what God says you are! It was God who separated you from your mother’s womb, when it pleased Him, and called you by His grace according to Galatians 1:15 (KJV). It was God alone that knew you before He fashioned you with His own label in your mother’s womb (Jeremiah 1:5). It was God that bought you with a price and paid for by Christ (1 Corinthians 7:23). So don’t be enslaved by the world and their labels. Don’t out of old habit, slip into being or doing what everyone else tells you — your self-worth is vital to your happiness.
You might have been classified as and called an outcast all your life, you certainly won’t feel good about yourself but Psalms 127:4 (ABC) says, “As arrows in the hand of a mighty man; so are the children (you, the one reading this letter) of those who were outcasts”. David was treated as an outcast even by His own father but God came for Him and made him a leader from nothing to something irrespective of the label that was placed on him.
David went on to say in Psalms 139:14-16 (MSG), “I thank you, High God — you’re breathtaking! Body and soul, I am marvelously made! I worship in adoration — what a creation! 15 You know me inside and out, you know every bone in my body; You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit, how I was sculpted from nothing into something. 16 Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth; all the stages of my life were spread out before you, The days of my life all prepared before I’d even lived one day”.
I don’t know in which street of life that label has kept you today, go beyond it and refuse to be defined by it. Like David, don’t forget that you are not ordinary. Don’t talk cheap because the price that was paid for your salvation wasn’t cheap. Thank God instead for your open book knowing that God is the one holding the pen. Just because you are “disadvantaged,” just because you’ve been through a tough time, and just because you’ve been labelled and called names doesn’t mean you’re supposed to sit back and settle where you are.
David was labelled a shepherd boy until he became king one day (See 1 Samuel 16:1–13; 2 Samuel 5:2 and Psalms 78:70–71). Ruth was labelled as a maidservant (see Ruth 3:9) until she became the owner of Boaz’s field (see Ruth 2:15 and Ruth 4:10-13). Gideon was labelled poor, weak, unqualified and the least in his family. Sadly, he believed too (see Judges 6:12 – 16) but God saw in him a mighty man of valour. Mordecai was labelled as a commoner and an outsider until he became a high ranking officer at the palace (see Esther 9:4). Jesus Christ was labelled a demon and insane — someone who raves and rambles (See John 10:20), but you know the rest of the story — He’s our Lord and Saviour.
I also don’t know what might have happened in your life for you to be labelled this way but hear this, Abraham lied and that didn’t stop God from coming to him and from blessing him (see Genesis 20:2-3). So stop beating yourself up over your past mistakes and over every label placed on you. God is able to turn everything around and cause it to work for your good. Those labels might have lasted and defined you before you stumbled on this letter, but not anymore – because nothing can defeat God’s promise for you. Weeping, body shaming, bullying, and feelings of defeat may have endured for a night but JOY is coming for you (see Psalms 30:5).
If you have been labelled because you are separated or divorced, and treated like an outcast, don’t go into hiding and don’t allow anyone prevents you from moving forward in life even if it’s hard to endure extra complications and being discriminated against. While you might have also faced stigma and prejudice through no fault of yours, always remind yourself that there’s no shame in divorce neither is their shame in separation or break up. Don’t let anyone tell you differently because you are better off than the thousands of men and women who are miserable, crying their eyes to sleep and trapped in toxic relationships but too afraid to let go for fear of being labelled and discriminated against. If you are still reading this and you’re around people who are shaming you for your divorce, or break-up, you need to remind yourself that there’s only shame in not living your true purpose and destiny. That rejection doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough. It doesn’t mean that you are hard to love. It probably means the other person didn’t recognise what you have to offer.
If you have stumbled in your walk of faith for whatever reason and labelled as unqualified for His Grace, don’t give up and don’t lose heart — you will not be down for too long. You will not be without help, God has a grip on your hand, supporting you (see Psalms 37:24). No matter the drama around you today, I encourage you to keep your eyes on Jesus. No matter all the things that can go wrong; keep your eyes on Jesus! No matter what tries to distract you; keep your eyes on Jesus. No matter how many disappointments you may encounter; keep your eyes on Jesus. Weapons will be formed against you, but they will not prosper (see Isaiah 54:17) because they have no power over you.
This is my letter for you today — be defined by His Word and not the labels placed on you. That’s not to say you shouldn’t do a self-appraisal, do, but always remember that name-calling, rejection and being treated like an outcast doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough. It doesn’t mean that God made a mistake creating you for His purpose. It doesn’t mean that glorious things are not spoken of you in the pages of His Word. Stop labelling yourself just because you’re not like them — let your self-worth and happiness comes from within and not from others. In a world full of people being hypocrites, stand out, trust and love yourself more.
Irrespective of what others have labelled you as it’s my prayer that the blessings of the Lord will continue to be upon you and follow you all the days of your life. Do not question what others have done and how they have labelled you with different names. Don’t question what they have said and what it looked like. God has seen how they have treated you. He has seen the abuse, labels, lies, insults, attacks, evil plans and the injustice. He has seen the wrongs heaped on you BUT He is about to make things right. He’s about to give you a day in His court (see Lamentations 3:59 CEV).
May the shame of your earlier days go out of your memory in Jesus Name! (see Isaiah 54:4). May everything that gives you hope and peace of mind for a better tomorrow never be taken away from you. Today, more than ever before, may God’s mercy reach out to you and speak for you. May He help you to see yourself as a person of great worth and may He continue to keep watch over EVERY STEP you take today.
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