This letter is for you, you that’s feeling alone, struggling emotionally, at war with yourself, and at the edge of giving up. This letter is for you, you that have been at war with yourself to the point where you are now traumatized, exhausted, questioning your purpose, future and your faith. It is my desire that when you are done reading this letter, you will find what I found when I was in your shoes — that through God’s faithfulness to His own promises, He alone can bring you healing through vistas of hope.
I don’t know how you got into this war and for how long, but one thing is certain, you have spent too much time at war with yourself. You have allowed that bitterness and anger that you carry to ruin and create a lot of unnecessary damage to you. You have allowed that unforgiving spirit steals your joy for too long. You have allowed that disappointment turn into rage, resentment, sadness, depression and moments of weakness for you. You have spent too much time lying and talking about how bad he or she treated you. This is not you anymore — you have changed and not for the better.
Whatever it is that you’re struggling with today — mentally, emotionally or physically —I want you to know that it is time for you to put an end to this war. It’s time for you to stop any further negativity from getting inside of you and weighing you down. I understand that people will come into your life for a reason, for a lesson or for a blessing but irrespective of how many of them have succeeded in badly treating and manipulating you away from your inner peace, it is time for you to evaluate why you allow them to be in your life. Those that wronged you might have given you lemons and while you may have been eating them for a while, allowing the bitterness to suck you in, it is time for you to make lemonade because you deserve to be happy.
Ships don’t sink because of the surrounding water, they sink because of the water that gets in them. Stop listening to opinions from people that aren’t adding any value to you. If anyone is not contributing to your happiness, if all they give is negative energy, show them the door and release them from your life, because their energy is unhealthy. Release them and make peace with yourself because the battles ahead cannot be won if you continue to be at war with yourself. Stop allowing back in your life the people that hurt you and the people that keep bringing the same thoughts that destroy you. Let chaos stay on the outside and keep God on the inside. When you meet those that thrive on negativity, let them vent but don’t let it breed more negativity in you.
Don’t let what is happening around you, get inside you and weigh you down. Don’t let the hysteria of what’s going on in your own surroundings get inside you and turn you into a monster. Don’t let the negativity around you penetrate through! Don’t allow the things you have no control over drain your energy. Stay in your lane, focus on your journey and refuse to be a product of your circumstances. Don’t find yourself living in the past — you will be depressed. Don’t find yourself living in fear and in the future either because of your present circumstances — your anxiety level will be quadrupled. Stop focusing on how stressed you are and remember how blessed you are. Stop harbouring guilt from past mistakes and let go of all needless expectations. The forces that are for you are greater than those that are against you as long as you keep your inner place protected.
Quit dwelling on what went wrong and what didn’t turn out right. Never let anyone steal your joy and never let your emotions take you out of this world. Use your time wisely in the morning and through the day. Every day has 86400 seconds given to you as a blessing which can sometimes be full of changes, turns and dismay. Irrespective of the season you are in right now, don’t let 10 seconds of it that was misused ruin the other 86,390 seconds. It’s like having $86,400 and someone steals $10 dollars from you, and instead of moving on with your life, you want to spend the remaining $86,390 trying to get back at them. That’s not only a waste of time and resources, but it also makes no sense and it is depressing.
I understand that the future might be hidden from you right now, but don’t underestimate the vistas of hope that your experience has opened up to you. Let it be your first look into not just the wide, wide, WORD of God, but of His faithfulness. Put your life in perspective and realize that life is way too short to spend another day of it at war with yourself. Meditate daily on things that will bring you healing, things that will help you grow and things that will cause you to want to help others. Philippians 4:8 (NKJV) says, “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things”.
You might have moments of doubt but always remember to be diligent and guard what you let live in your thoughts and what drives your beliefs and actions. Proverbs 4:23 (NCV) says, “Be careful what you think because your thoughts run your life”. If after reading this letter and you think it’s too late for you to end this war, you’re allowed to destroy yourself BUT don’t bring others down because you’re at war with yourself. Don’t destroy your marriage or relationship because you are at war with yourself. Don’t become toxic to friends or spouse because you are at war with yourself. Don’t disturb the peace of those in your life simply because you’re at war with yourself. Don’t ruin your career or job because you’re at war with yourself. Don’t let the silly little things around you steal your happiness. Stop blaming other people, for being at war with yourself. Stop dragging other people to wars because you’re at war with yourself. Stop forcing people to be the person that they are not simply because you’re at war with yourself. Stop allowing your anger and bitterness spill over on whoever comes around you just because you’re at war with yourself. Don’t bleed on people that didn’t cut you. Don’t become your own worst enemy because nobody wins when you’re at war with yourself.
This is my letter for you today: You can’t be at peace with yourself if you’re at war with others neither can you be at peace with others if you’re at war with yourself. A war with yourself is a war you won’t win. Never let a miserable person steal your joy and break your spirit. Don’t allow your ship to sink and don’t hide a smile that could sink a thousand ships either. Everybody has an opinion, a thought about who you should be BUT you have the power to control what you accept and what you allow to become a drama in your spirit. Make up your mind never to allow their negativity to weigh you down or fill you up.
You ONLY have one life, fight fiercely for it and build the life you want! Be you and be free by living in the present for therein lies your inner peace. Let go of yesterday’s troubles, be in love with yourself, ignore the flashbacks of all the torn pages, trust the next chapter even if closing the previous one might not be easy and keep sailing. May all your heartaches, frustrations and disappointments turn into something beautiful for you this season.
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