Life and Things Happen

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that is wishing you could go back to the day you met the one in your life and be able to turn around and walk away. This letter is for you, you that’s wishing you could go back in time to tell yourself never to fall in love with the wrong person again. This letter is for you, you that is wishing you could go back in time and take out all the mistakes that you’ve made out of your life.

How have you been? I planned to send you a future letter but because it is been two months since I last sent you one, I feel the desire to write to you now. So if you’re reading this letter and you’re walking in silence and trying to find yourself, I want you to know that you can’t change the past. You can only learn from it and move forward. Everything that has ever happened to you — good or bad, was for a reason. That’s why Romans 8:28 (ASV) says, “And we know that to them that love God all things work together for good, [even] to them that are called according to [his] purpose”.

If it’s true that all things, in whatsoever form, all adversaries, no matter their nature, all mistakes, no matter how bad, work together for your good, then I encourage you to stop wishing you could go back in time with your current knowledge and the circumstances of your life right now. Focus on what you can do better or where your life goes from here rather than spending time wishing you could go back and do something different. Understand that life happens and things happen and the best thing you can do is learn to let go, let God be, and move on.

Rather than laying in your bed late at night crying, overthinking everything, just wishing you could go back and change everything, do yourself a favour and learn how to walk away from anything and anyone that no longer serves a purpose. If the one you admire so much starts to change from whom they used to be, learn how to let it go. If the one in your life starts to mistreat you repeatedly, learn how to move on to something and someone better. Maturity is learning to walk away from people and situations that threaten your peace of mind, self-respect, values, morals and self-worth.

All things must come to an end irrespective of what life has thrown at you today. Stop looking at that old picture and wishing you could go back to that moment. Move on and create a new picture. That old picture is simply a chapter in your life. Don’t tear the picture, don’t close the album and don’t close the book, just turn the page for a new chapter. You are allowed to forgive yourself because everyone makes mistakes. You are allowed to create the life that you desire. You’re allowed to change your name. You are allowed to terminate toxic relationships. You are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you. Don’t be so hard on yourself because you don’t owe anyone an explanation for taking care of yourself.

Today more than ever before, don’t waste your energy trying to force something that isn’t meant to be. Be willing to walk alone knowing that many who start with you won’t finish with you. Be willing to walk alone because it’s your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you. The moment you feel like you have to prove your worth to someone is the moment you absolutely and utterly have to walk away.

I understand that there is nothing worse than wishing you could go back and change something that’s screwed up now but you should stop wishing and start taking steps to move on with your life. Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy. Respect yourself enough and stop lighting yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. Your journey will be much lighter and easier if you don’t carry your past with you.

Having no reason to stay in that relationship, job, city or blessed mess is a good reason to go. Allow your heart to be okay and stop creeping on yourself — wishing you could go back to the moments you were genuinely happy. Stop crying yourself to sleep every night hoping that your relationship can become better — a bad relationship is like standing on broken glass, if you stay you will keep hurting and probably bleed to death. If you walk away, you will hurt, you will be miserable, you will be judged, but eventually, you will heal.

Until tomorrow or maybe someday when we meet and be able to share our stories with each other, stop wishing you could go back and change your past. It’s called a past for a reason. Have the courage to live the way you want to and stop thinking the hardest thing is walking away from someone you really thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with. Sometimes the greatest act of love is to walk away so that the other person can find their true self and direction again.

May God fill you with endurance, you that is finding it hard to walk in peace because your path feels difficult. May God work out those things that have been stressing you out and may your next tears be tears of joy.

In Him,
Ali Papa.


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