Be Proud Of The Person You Are Becoming

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that is letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind and emotions because of their actions and words.

I know this might sound strange to you at first, and possibly for a long time to come but as someone who once suffered from depression and overcame it, I want you to understand that the inaccurate version of you that people have created in their mind is not your responsibility just as the version of yourself that you have created in your own mind is not others’ responsibility.

The way people treat you, the names they call and labelled you with, the horrible things and lies they say about you, are all a reflection and a statement of who they are as a human being and not a true representation of who you are in the eyes of your creator.

As a matter of fact, you need to understand that the people you meet on a daily basis, your colleagues, and even your family members, all have a version of you in their heads. You’re never the same person to everyone and that’s why you should always walk in the light and consciousness of who God calls you and not what people call you.

I don’t know what’s draining you emotionally as you read this, I don’t know what people have said about you that is causing so much drama in your spirit and I don’t know what situation has come against you, one thing I do know is that your mind is supposed to be a safe place irrespective of how people want to make it look like a battlefield. Your mind is supposed to be a slave to you, not the other way round. Your mind is supposed to be a private place and not a playground for everyone to invade and mess with.

While I understand that learning to control your mind and emotions is tough, I want you to understand too that things are not what they seem to be in life. Taking ownership of your mind is a challenge you should never back away from. Carefully guarding your thoughts is not a responsibility you can delegate to anyone because your thoughts are the source of true life — Proverbs 4:23 (CEV). Guard your thoughts and never allow your mind to be at war with your heart — it will cause you many sleepless nights. Guard your thoughts and never allow your mind to become your worst enemy.

It is okay for your life not to look like everyone else’s around you but it is never okay to allow the opinion of others to shape you and make you feel that you’re not of God — 1 John 4:4. It is never okay to allow the opinion of others to rob you of your joy. It is never okay to allow the opinion of others influences your life. Stop making decisions based on what other people’s lives look like as your journey doesn’t have to look like everyone else’s in order to be considered successful.

While everyone is entitled to have an opinion, realise that not everyone’s opinion matter. So never allow the opinion of others to cause any form of instability in your marriage, relationship or business. Never allow the opinion of others shatter the confidence you have for yourself. Never allow the opinions of others to water down your dreams. No one knows you better than you know yourself. Never allow the opinion of others to define your identity. Whatever they say about you is what it is — an opinion and nothing more.

Never be afraid to go after what you want in life just because you think you could fail yourself and everyone or because of what people will say. Understand that you will never satisfy everyone regardless of what you do. You’ll never satisfy yourself too if you’re always looking to others for validation. Your motives will always be questioned by somebody. Your promotion will always draw in your enemies and your success will always intimidate your haters. Do everything that pleases you, because you’ll never satisfy the standard of others especially if they want you down. More also, you’ll never satisfy someone who isn’t satisfied with themselves.

Dear Someone, don’t let troubles get you down. Troubles don’t last always. Many might be your troubles as you’re reading this letter but the Lord is able to deliver you out of them all. Psalms 34:17-19 (KJV) says, “The righteous cry, and the LORD heareth, and delivereth them out of all their troubles. 18 The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit. 19 Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the LORD delivereth him out of them all”.

It is a new day and a new month, find a reason to go forward in life. Take a hold of what sets your soul on fire knowing that “you”, not your detractors or those who don’t know you, are responsible for creating a life that makes you happy and fulfilled. It doesn’t matter if you have been overlooked, rejected and ignored by the people that aren’t meant to be in your life, let go in peace and don’t allow the fear you feel night after night develop into a disease and don’t let your life go wasted.

Until tomorrow, I hope you find life worth living. I hope you find that kind love that brings you peace of mind. I hope you find yourself out there. I hope you find it in you to stop blaming yourself all the time for things you had no control over. I hope you find relief from whatever is bothering you.

I hope you learn how to stop looking for love in all the wrong places. I hope you learn how to be kind to yourself to face the journey you are on. I hope you learn how to let go and love yourself. I hope you learn to be proud of the person you are becoming. I hope you learn how to forgive yourself as you read this letter.

I hope your path opens up for you. I hope your path develops before your eyes and you see yourself for who you are. I hope you learn to be proud of where you are — even if it isn’t exactly where you want to be. I hope your path keeps you in the spotlight for years to come. I hope your path is filled with much love and happiness today and I hope your path leads you away from your past.

I hope you remind yourself that it is human to make mistakes. I hope you always remind yourself of your worth. I hope you always remind yourself of how incredible you are and how far you’ve come from what used to break you. I hope you always remind yourself that you are NOT inconsiderate for having YOUR boundaries. I hope you always remind yourself to celebrate your little victories along the way. I hope you always remind yourself that you are brave, capable and significant, even when it feels like you’re not.

I hope you will always remember that no matter the label placed upon you, you’re the only one that can control your mind and emotions. I hope you will always remember that difficult relationships come into our lives for a reason. I hope that you will stop worrying yourself from today about what you can’t control and worry about what you can. I hope you will always remember that at the end of the day, loving yourself first will be the core of your happiness. I hope you will always remember that, regardless of anything, I will always be here to cheer you on.

I hope you will say amen to the following prayers: May you cease from being an expression of brokenness, depression, and failure but a person of nobility. May God give you the Grace to walk boldly knowing that He’s fighting your battles and turning things around for your good. May God send you someone who will love you as He does. May God continue to be your peace whenever it’s difficult for you to relax. May God give you the enablement to be able to deal with every situation with faith. May God shield you from agonizing over things you can’t control and concentrate more on Him. May you recognize the value of time and use it only for those things and people truly worthy of it. May that burden that you have been dealing with silently suddenly disappear from you in Jesus Name.

In His Service,
Ali Papa.


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