This letter is for you, you that is lonely at heart. You that is emotionally drained and messed up. You that found yourself saying, “I was foolish. I was lying to myself.” You that no longer know if you wish to drown yourself in love, vodka or the sea. You that have witnessed things that have changed you forever. This letter is for you, you that have lost your mind trying to understand the one that said they love you.
Make up your mind no matter how love makes you feel right now, to forgive him or her. Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So, love the people who treat you right and forgive those who treated you wrongly and thought it was okay. Forgive those who treated you like you were their option. Forgive those who treated you wrong when you were nothing but nice. Forgive those who left you and those who treated you the way you shouldn’t. Forgive them and move on but refuse to take their leftover love — you deserve much more.
If they complain or accuse you that you have changed, tell them you haven’t. Don’t let them leave you feeling like you need to justify or explain yourself. You should let them know that you have finally found the strength to stand up and show them all that you are. And if they can’t accept that, it goes to show they were never really for you. You might never have thought that your relationship with them was temporarily but that’s fine. Allow them to love who they want to love. You go after the one who goes a long way to make it obvious that they want you in their lives. After all, it’s always nice being wanted even if it’s by the wrong person.
Know your worth, you that is emotionally drained and messed up. Know when you’ve had enough, you that found yourself saying, “I was foolish. I was lying to myself.” Choose to move on from people who chip away at your happiness, you that no longer know if you wish to drown yourself in love, vodka or the sea. You can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you, you that have witnessed things that have changed you forever. All you can do is change how you react to it.
Do what makes you happy and stop destroying what is left of your heart by constantly thinking about things and those that have broken you. Be with the one that’s making you smile and stop breaking your own heart by holding on to the memory of how bad someone else treated you. They saw it in your eyes when you were sad, depressed, lonely, confused, sick, tired and begging for their love, but they pretended to be blind and continuously ignored every gesture of your love.
If tonight is one of those nights, where you miss them terribly and want to see him or her, do yourself a favour by deliberately staying away. Take a stand for yourself and put that phone away — don’t break your own heart again. Don’t make the mistake of ignoring those that genuinely love you by going after those who don’t love you. Don’t go after those who don’t want you just because someone else is not available at the moment and don’t fall in love just because someone pays a little bit of attention to you. Instead, trust that God is doing a work in you. Trust that God is about to send you someone that will make ALL the difference. Trust that all things are working together for your good. Trust that your best days are still ahead of you.
Until tomorrow, always remember that you’re responsible for your happiness — no one is supposed to be your rehab. Appreciate yourself and do what is best for your health knowing that happiness is in the heart, not in the circumstances. Take life one day at a time knowing that happiness is when you feel good about yourself without feeling the need for someone else’s approval.
No matter how far away you have ended up from where you are supposed to be, no matter how bad love makes you feel right now, I want you to have faith that God, your God, will get you out of there (Deuteronomy 30:4) and restore you to favour again. You that is in tears reading this letter, may “God, your God, restore everything you have lost”. May God “have compassion on you”. May He “come back and pick up the pieces” of your relationship and restore you back to favour again — Deuteronomy 30:3 (MSG). You that’s holding on to so much hurt, may God give you the grace to let go of every care and hindrance tonight. May the joy of the Lord be your strength (Nehemiah 8:10) and may ask go well for you in Jesus Name!
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