Don’t Let The Enemy Have Your Joy.

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that is finding it really hard to have a relationship with someone who is so critical of everything you do. You that is at the receiving end of people that are overly critical of everything you do and you that have a family that is critical of everything you do to the point where the simple act of breathing can draw criticisms.

I know this is very hard for you, and I hope you do not cry alone. I know this is very hard for you, especially if you are stuck with the one that is always critical of you in the same office, home or circle. I know this is very hard for you, and that’s why I am writing you this letter, hoping I could say something that will be of help. I know this is very hard for you and that is why I am praying for you to keep your head up as you read this letter.

I know this is very hard for you, and that is why I want you to understand that, as people, we don’t have control over what people say or do to us. We don’t have control over their hearts and thoughts. We only have control over our actions, choices and reactions. So I will ask that you stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that criticism is nothing but a self-description of those that are critical of everything you do or say.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that excessive criticism reveals more about your critics than it does about you. Most of the time their nagging, tantrums, complaints and negative comments are not you, it is them.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that friends that are overly critical of everything you do, big or small, are not friends.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that friends who find ways to offend you through words while covering them up with jokes are not your friend.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that friends who belittle your achievements by talking about theirs are not your friends.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that you were on their chopping board because you are not like them.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that they are just intimidated at what they see and envious of the fact that you exude confidence at all times.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that if someone doesn’t like you, they are going to be critical of everything you do.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that some people are never happy, never satisfied and as a result will always be critical of everything you do.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that no one has a right or gift of being overly critical of everything you do when you are not answerable to them.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that those who are highly critical of everything you do or say are nothing but narcissist who can’t see any issue with their own evil behaviour.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that whenever you are making progress in life or when you start prospering, there are those who will be critical of everything you do.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that irrespective of how your friends love you, they can still be toxic for you.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that those who are very critical of everything you do will get mad at you for defending yourself.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that irrespective of how anyone thinks you should have done something differently, it doesn’t make them right and it doesn’t make you wrong.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that some people will be critical of everything you do even when you are voted into an office strictly for that purpose.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that some people will be overly critical of everything you do irrespective of who called you to do it. Jesus Christ was criticized, prosecuted and killed by the very people he came for.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that their opinions don’t mean you have to change who you are.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that their criticism is an indication that you stand for something they don’t understand.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that the more people spend time pointing and looking at your faults, the less time they have to correct theirs.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that some people’s full-time job is to look for faults and being hypercritical of everything you do.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that you can’t change your past either can you change your experiences and opinions of others about you. Understand that your mistakes are yours, own them!

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that your choices and its outcomes are yours, own them! Stop wishing and understand that your past is behind, learn from it. Stop wishing and understand that your future is ahead, prepare for it. Stop wishing and understand that the present is here, live it knowing that life is for living, and not for stress.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that your desires, your fantasies, they are yours, own them. Stop wishing and understand that your feelings and moods are yours, own them. Stop wishing and understand that your gains and losses are yours, own them.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that your beliefs and opinions are yours. Own them with no regrets. Stop wishing and understand that the decisions you make, are yours, own them.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that your “little demons”, are yours, own them. When you do, only then can you conquer them.

Stop wishing that sometimes people weren’t so critical of everything you do and understand that your journey and your achievements are yours, own them. Stop wishing and understand that your part of reaching your destiny is in understanding your detours and pitfalls while still moving forward.

While I am not saying that you should surround yourself with “yes men”, you can’t afford to surround yourself with negative people that are very critical of everything you do either. If you must surround yourself with anyone if you must keep good friends, let it be those that will say things that will help you grow.

Proverbs 15:31 (NLT) says, “If you listen to constructive criticism, you will be at home among the wise” and Proverbs 13:18 (TLB) says, “If you refuse criticism, you will end in poverty and disgrace; if you accept criticism, you are on the road to fame”.

Today more than ever before, reevaluate the position of everyone in your life and surround yourself with people who know your value instead of letting the negative words of a few convince you that you are not good enough. Surround yourself with people who push you up instead of letting bitter and unhappy people drag you down to their level.

Surround yourself with people who challenge you to be your best instead of operating with the mentality that people will be critical of everything you do. Surround yourself with people who challenge, encourage and push you to do, be and act better instead of allowing negative and toxic people rent space in your head.

Surround yourself with people who fit with your future and not your past. Surround yourself with people who will help you grow in your faith, and stop bothering yourself about what other people think of you. As much as you can, distance yourself from people that are unnecessarily negative and overly critical of everything you do, let them go knowing that you don’t need their negativity in your life. Let them go knowing that whatever insecurities you have, they are yours.

Until tomorrow, always remember that while you may not have control over how critical of you people can be, you do have control over the things you say to yourself. Don’t be your own worst enemy by digging yourself in a hole and don’t be so critical of everything you do, good or bad.

Don’t go around looking for reasons to be negative because of how others make you feel. Stop searching for reasons to be angry and do the things that make your heart smile instead. Stop letting anyone dictate your dreams, they are yours, own them.

They may laugh at every move you make, they may disrespect you for every opportunity they have, they may criticize you for your rare failures, they may criticize you for not having it all together, they may put you down when they don’t know you, they may criticize you when they don’t know the whole story, their voice may be loud, they may say bad things about you, but always remember to take a position of faith, and don’t let the enemy have your joy.

Be encouraged!

In Him,
Ali Papa.


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