Things Do Get Better

Dear Someone,

I’m concerned! Concerned because of the emotional damage you are doing to yourself ever since your parents said they are not in support of your relationship with the only person you love and want to be with.

I want you to learn to be okay with your parents not knowing why you are so much in love with this person. Nothing you do will be able to prove to them that the one you’re in love with is the only one that keeps your mind sane. Nothing you do will be able to prove to them that falling in love makes you feel there is no other joy except the one you find in this special one.

I want you to learn to be okay with your feelings, emotions and moments of solitude at such a time as this. There are more to what you can see right now so don’t fight it and don’t assume things are going to always be this way. You do not need to prove anything to anyone especially if the one you’re in love with is a person who makes your soul dance even from a distance.

Learn to be okay with your favourite people not being on your side. We cannot truly understand each other. It is difficult for most parents to imagine their beloved daughter in the arms of another man or son in the company of a woman they think is not good for him at some point.

Learn empathy, put yourself in their shoes, knowing that your parents are acting out of love and protection for you. I know it is never easy, but you will thank God for all that is happening right now at some point in the future because the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.

Most importantly, learn to be okay with your choices even if they’re not the best. Everything will align the way they are supposed to be. Yours is to roll with the script as they unfold day by day. Romans 8:28 (TLB) says, “And we know that all that happens to us is working for our good if we love God and are fitting into his plans”.

Don’t force anything because of how you feel right now. It is okay to plan a future with the one you’re in love with, but it is also wise to plan your future without them. You just never know what God is saving you from. I made that mistake a few years back and I can tell you that in your journey of love, “the swiftest person does not always win the race, nor the strongest man, the battle” (Ecclesiastes 9:11 TLB).

Learn to see beyond your current obstacles. Lean not on your own understanding knowing that “There are ways that seem to be right to a man, but the end of them looks to the depth of hell” (Proverbs 16:25 ABC). Don’t be a victim of your own mind at such a time as this since you don’t want to be in any relationship that will put you in silent hell.

You may have been scarred and emotionally wounded because of the restrictions placed on you for falling in love but just remember that nothing worth having comes easy. Ecclesiastes 9:1 (CEV) says, “I thought about these things. Then I understood that God has power over everyone, even those of us who are wise and live right. Anything can happen to any of us, and so we never know if life will be good or bad”.

Understand that God has power over your present circumstances, He has power over your parents’ opinions, He has power over your heart desires towards the ones you love and most importantly, God has a plan for you concerning your relationship. Rest knowing that all His plans for you will come to pass. He will not give you anything you can’t handle.

Don’t be trapped by the things you can’t change especially if you can’t do anything about it. Don’t stand on God’s wings impatiently and fearfully assuming that the one you love and want to be with is out of reach. When the one you love and in love with is “God sent”, you will not have to struggle for too long to be with them. God’s plans for your life and His loving-kindness, for and towards you will continue forever.

Until tomorrow, let God have your life, He knit you together. Let Him take care of your worries, He doesn’t make mistakes. Operate and love from the center of His strength, He can do more with all that you are uncertain about than you can.

In Him,
Ali Papa.


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