I hope this letter finds you, you that is gathering in your head all the reasons that have ever made you sad and you that is struggling to show people you are a good person.
I can’t give you all the answers in this letter, but I hope I can convince you that sometimes, walking away is the only way to win. I think walking away, the very act of trying not to explain yourself to everyone is a simple way of saying, “I have grown, and I am not what happened to me”.
Whatever it is that has happened to you in that street of life, see it for what it is — it is your evil day that Ephesians 6:13b talks about. Never allow your situations to get you into a point where you want to sit in a room completely all alone and cry.
You are not a bad person for having to make a change in the people you are surrounded by. You are not a bad person for letting go of what you thought was real. You are not a bad person for taking up the whole armour of God so that you may be able to stand in that evil day (Ephesians 6:13a).
In whatever season of life you are in right now, understand that you are not an unfortunate person. You are not unfortunate if things are not going on well as expected right now. You are not unfortunate just because your marriage or relationship came to an unexpected end. Bad things happen to good people. Don’t let yours define you.
You are not unfortunate just because life has decided not to be nice to you at such a time as this. You are not unfortunate just because you are in a “blessed mess” or just because this is not the morning of your life right now. You are not unfortunate just because you are out of a job or struggling to make ends meet. Understand that every adversity comes with its seed of greatness.
When things seem to go wrong, don’t break, it is nothing but an evil day. When everything you have worked and laboured for goes down the drain in an instant, don’t break and don’t let people put a period where God placed a comma in your story. When you wake up to a broken relationship or marriage, rest knowing that God is not finished yet. The next part is the best!
When that day comes, when something bad happens, you have three choices: You can either let it define you, destroy you, or let it strengthen you. Your conviction and your assurance are what will keep you going.
In your day of trouble or during your trial period, don’t explain yourself and tell people everything that has gone wrong. Stop narrating your version of the story and stop trying to explain how it wasn’t your fault. God doesn’t need their help to do what HE’s going to do in your life.
It is time to stop defending and justifying what happened to you by the number of people you can convince. Your motivation should be the number of times you were able to hold yourself back from trying to explain yourself to people who have shown they don’t care.
You owe no one any explanation of what you do. You owe no one any explanation of what happened because no one will truly understand. You owe no one nothing. Stop allowing your stories to hold you back for too long. Secure the borders of your life. Your life is yours, not theirs.
If your trouble or situation has something to do with your relationship, you must realize that at your absolute best, you still won’t be good for the wrong person. At your worst, you will still be worth it to the right person. So go ahead and do your own thing. The odds may be against you, but God is for you. That’s all that matters.
Stop wasting your time trying to explain yourself to others why you lost that job, why that relationship didn’t work out and why your marriage failed. Never be held captive irrespective of how bad they treated you, cheated on you or how messed up they left you. Everything you’ve been through was all leading up to this new thing God is doing in your life.
Forget what you feel and set yourself free. Stop wasting your time trying to explain yourself to others why you decided to walk away from a relationship that appears to be a perfect one. Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe whatever you have to say.
I’m not sure where you are with God, but I’d love to remind you never to allow your world revolve around anyone. Stop waiting for your life to begin again. God wants you to channel your pain into your purpose. You are not what happened to you but how you overcome it.
Whatever you face, be kind to yourself but be confident in God who goes before you. The last time was the last. Some stuff you’ve been through, you’ll never go through again.
In His Service,