The Odds May Be Against You, But God Is For You.


Dear Someone,

I hope this letter finds you, you that is gathering in your head all the reasons that have ever made you sad and you that is struggling to show people you are a good person.

I can’t give you all the answers in this letter, but I hope I can convince you that sometimes, walking away is the only way to win. I think walking away, the very act of trying not to explain yourself to everyone is a simple way of saying, “I have grown, and I am not what happened to me”.

Whatever it is that has happened to you in that street of life, see it for what it is — it is your evil day that Ephesians 6:13b talks about. Never allow your situations to get you into a point where you want to sit in a room completely all alone and cry.

You are not a bad person for having to make a change in the people you are surrounded by. You are not a bad person for letting go of what you thought was real. You are not a bad person for taking up the whole armour of God so that you may be able to stand in that evil day (Ephesians 6:13a).

In whatever season of life you are in right now, understand that you are not an unfortunate person. You are not unfortunate if things are not going on well as expected right now. You are not unfortunate just because your marriage or relationship came to an unexpected end. Bad things happen to good people. Don’t let yours define you.

You are not unfortunate just because life has decided not to be nice to you at such a time as this. You are not unfortunate just because you are in a “blessed mess” or just because this is not the morning of your life right now. You are not unfortunate just because you are out of a job or struggling to make ends meet. Understand that every adversity comes with its seed of greatness.

When things seem to go wrong, don’t break, it is nothing but an evil day. When everything you have worked and laboured for goes down the drain in an instant, don’t break and don’t let people put a period where God placed a comma in your story. When you wake up to a broken relationship or marriage, rest knowing that God is not finished yet. The next part is the best!

When that day comes, when something bad happens, you have three choices: You can either let it define you, destroy you, or let it strengthen you. Your conviction and your assurance are what will keep you going.

In your day of trouble or during your trial period, don’t explain yourself and tell people everything that has gone wrong. Stop narrating your version of the story and stop trying to explain how it wasn’t your fault. God doesn’t need their help to do what HE’s going to do in your life.

It is time to stop defending and justifying what happened to you by the number of people you can convince. Your motivation should be the number of times you were able to hold yourself back from trying to explain yourself to people who have shown they don’t care.

You owe no one any explanation of what you do. You owe no one any explanation of what happened because no one will truly understand. You owe no one nothing. Stop allowing your stories to hold you back for too long. Secure the borders of your life. Your life is yours, not theirs.

If your trouble or situation has something to do with your relationship, you must realize that at your absolute best, you still won’t be good for the wrong person. At your worst, you will still be worth it to the right person. So go ahead and do your own thing. The odds may be against you, but God is for you. That’s all that matters.

Stop wasting your time trying to explain yourself to others why you lost that job, why that relationship didn’t work out and why your marriage failed. Never be held captive irrespective of how bad they treated you, cheated on you or how messed up they left you. Everything you’ve been through was all leading up to this new thing God is doing in your life.

Forget what you feel and set yourself free. Stop wasting your time trying to explain yourself to others why you decided to walk away from a relationship that appears to be a perfect one. Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe whatever you have to say.

I’m not sure where you are with God, but I’d love to remind you never to allow your world revolve around anyone. Stop waiting for your life to begin again. God wants you to channel your pain into your purpose. You are not what happened to you but how you overcome it.

Whatever you face, be kind to yourself but be confident in God who goes before you. The last time was the last. Some stuff you’ve been through, you’ll never go through again.

In His Service,
Ali Papa.

Don’t Let The Enemy Have Your Joy.

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that is finding it really hard to have a relationship with someone who is so critical of everything you do. You that is at the receiving end of people that are overly critical of everything you do and you that have a family that is critical of everything you do to the point where the simple act of breathing can draw criticisms.

I know this is very hard for you, and I hope you do not cry alone. I know this is very hard for you, especially if you are stuck with the one that is always critical of you in the same office, home or circle. I know this is very hard for you, and that’s why I am writing you this letter, hoping I could say something that will be of help. I know this is very hard for you and that is why I am praying for you to keep your head up as you read this letter.

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Never Let The Shortcomings Of Others Have You Questioning Yourself

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that end up getting disappointed thinking that people will care for you the way you cared for them. This letter is for you, you that end up getting disappointed thinking things last forever.

You should understand that not everybody has your heart or sense of empathy like they say they do. Some people judge before they try to understand. There are others who will believe false accusations about you without trying to know the facts.

You should understand that not everybody cares about what goes on in your life. Sometimes it is the ones you did the most for that will quit on you.

You should understand that not everybody you cared for, did so much for, and considered as friends, will always act like you exist.

You should understand that people will always have the capacity to let you down some way or another and that has nothing to do with you at all. People’s true colours get revealed when things get real.

You should understand that not everybody that says they will be there for you, will. Some people came into your life to either put you in difficult times or leave you there.

You should understand that not everybody will be on your side, even Jesus Christ had critics and had a disciple in Judas turned against Him. Just because you were nice to them, or right by them doesn’t mean they will do right by you.

You should understand that not everybody around you is going to go along for the ride and not everyone who promises will stay until the end.

You should understand that human love is very fickle. People will cheer you up today when you’re there for them and stab you in the back the following day when you are unable to continue to feed their needs.

You should understand that people are usually not who they claim to be. There will always be those who start the fires, those that fuel it up, and the ones that put them out.

You should understand that some people are very manipulative. They will flatter you with compliments and use you to help their plans succeed.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that people don’t owe you anything. You might have been responsible for where they are today, you were only a tool in the hand of God.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that sometimes people don’t hate you, they just don’t want you in their space anymore.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace. Do not let other people’s drama become drama in your spirit.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, do not let the behaviour of others make you think that everyone is ungrateful and manipulative. Learn to put your trust in God before you put your trust in anyone else.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, don’t ever let the shortcomings of others have you questioning yourself. You were never created to be loved by everyone and not everyone that knocks at your door should be given access to your life.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that people will leave your life for different reasons. You shouldn’t fall apart every time it happens. You shouldn’t shut the door of your heart to other people and you shouldn’t confuse your path with your destination.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that people will love you for different reasons. Choose the appropriate ones and cherish them.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that life goes on and there is that one person who will always quit on you, lie to you and hate on you, no matter how nice you are to them. Forgive them anyway and stop chasing people who can’t be bothered to match your efforts.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should get up every single day and never quit on yourself. Get up every day and never forget who you were before they broke your heart. Get up every day and wait for the person who prays with you, energizes you, motivates you, and supports you no matter what.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, never forget that God stays with you even when everyone else leaves. He is stronger than whatever it is that is making you anxious right now.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, always remember that the right person will come into your life at the right time.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, always remember that you don’t need a lot of friends, you only need a few who are trustworthy.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, don’t count the number of friends you have, count the number of friends you can trust.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, don’t complain about being lonely, ask God to help you find the right person knowing that after every disappointment comes a blessing.

I know you had their back when no one had theirs, you can’t help but let go of the people who are constantly trying to bring you down. You can’t help but keep away from as many people that have treated you badly in the past. You should only keep the ones who heard you when you never said a word.

I know it’s easier said than done, and I know it hurts when the ones you helped up then are the very ones kicking you right now to keep you down in your situation, you can’t help but be with someone who wants a future with you. You can’t help but, surround yourself with people who care about your happiness as much as you care about their happiness.

I know you have more questions than this letter could provide an answer to, and that’s why I want you to meditate on Philippians 4:6-7 (TLB). It says, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything; tell God your needs, and don’t forget to thank him for his answers. 7 If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will keep your thoughts and your hearts quiet and at rest as you trust in Christ Jesus”.

As you share this with someone that’s dealing with a disappointment today, it is my prayer that God will convert every disappointment in your life into a testimony. May you not suffer any disappointment from wherever you are having an expectation and may every pending disappointment in your life be turned to a delivered blessing.

May God keep you free of sadness and grief you that is reading this letter and in tears. May He honour and grant you your heart desires from wherever you have expectations. You shall be a blessing and not a disappointment to yourself and to your family.

In Him,
Ali Papa.


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You Are Not Alone In Living By Faith

Dear Someone,

If I were in your shoes, you that wanted love so badly, but couldn’t tell it wasn’t love that you have, I’d go straight to God, I’d throw myself on the mercy of God.

If I were in your shoes, you that is struggling to get started, you that have the itch about starting your own thing, I’d go straight to God, I’d throw myself on the mercy of God.

If I were in your shoes, you that from the first day you met them, they have become your most toxic addiction, I’d go straight to God, I’d throw myself on the mercy of God.

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Don’t Lose Yourself

Dear Someone,

If you found this letter and you are having a hard time, feeling like you’ve lost yourself instead of finding yourself, mentally and emotionally drained, and are scared of getting hurt again, that means it is for you. I am sending you this letter in the very final moments of my last evening of this glorious year 2019. I do so with so much gratitude and amazement. It is been an awesome year, and I am so excited to see what 2020 will bring for you and me.

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His Ability Outshines Your Inabilities

Dear Someone,

This year might not have been all that you want it to be. It might not have been a great one or your very best. It also might not have been the best year for you financially. It’s even possible that you are in one situation or you about to enter one as you read this letter. It’s possible that there are those you would have loved to have around you in this season of celebrations but for one reason or another, they are either out of your life or they are far away. Among us are many that are hurting; many that are in silent hell in their marriages; many that are in their hospital beds and many that are out of job and not sure how they are going to pay their next bill.

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Forgive Yourself And Begin Again

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that is looking back at your life in regret instead of looking forward. You that is looking back at your life and can’t identify the person that you have become. You that is looking back at your life and realizing that in a quest of making everyone around happy, you have lost yourself. For everyone that’s looking back at their lives and seeing a series of mistakes and sins, for everyone that’s looking back at 2019 and thinking that 2020 will just get worse up the same, this letter is for you. I don’t know if you are a follower, but I am glad you stumbled on this letter. It’s also a letter for me, to realize how much I have done and what I have become.

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God Has A Plan

Dear Someone,

I just prayed this prayer for you, you that have chosen to love in silence just because you find no rejection in it. You whose friendship, love, help, and service was rejected and left with more scars. May someone hug you so tight one day that all your broken pieces will stick back together. May God give you the strength to press on from that rejection. May He teach you to know that every rejection is just a step to a bigger and better acceptance and may your next blessing far outweigh the emotional battles and trauma that you are going through in Jesus Name.

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You’re Not Meant For A Sissy

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that was left and abandoned because they felt there was nothing left in you. You that is almost choking to death on the thought of them being with someone else. You that is feeling like you are going to die every time it dawns on you that you are never going to have him or her back in your life again. You that have become your own blanket and your blanket has become you.

This letter is for you, you that is thinking that his or her heart may not have any space for you again. You that is still wondering how they can easily let go of someone they said they love the most. You that is making excuses and playing the victim card for the one that left you for another person. You that have come to realize that getting no message from me the one you love is also a message. You whose heart gets heavier day and night looking for how to get your ex back into your life.

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Stop Breaking Your Heart 

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that is lonely at heart. You that is emotionally drained and messed up. You that found yourself saying, “I was foolish. I was lying to myself.” You that no longer know if you wish to drown yourself in love, vodka or the sea. You that have witnessed things that have changed you forever. This letter is for you, you that have lost your mind trying to understand the one that said they love you.

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