Never Let The Shortcomings Of Others Have You Questioning Yourself

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that end up getting disappointed thinking that people will care for you the way you cared for them. This letter is for you, you that end up getting disappointed thinking things last forever.

You should understand that not everybody has your heart or sense of empathy like they say they do. Some people judge before they try to understand. There are others who will believe false accusations about you without trying to know the facts.

You should understand that not everybody cares about what goes on in your life. Sometimes it is the ones you did the most for that will quit on you.

You should understand that not everybody you cared for, did so much for, and considered as friends, will always act like you exist.

You should understand that people will always have the capacity to let you down some way or another and that has nothing to do with you at all. People’s true colours get revealed when things get real.

You should understand that not everybody that says they will be there for you, will. Some people came into your life to either put you in difficult times or leave you there.

You should understand that not everybody will be on your side, even Jesus Christ had critics and had a disciple in Judas turned against Him. Just because you were nice to them, or right by them doesn’t mean they will do right by you.

You should understand that not everybody around you is going to go along for the ride and not everyone who promises will stay until the end.

You should understand that human love is very fickle. People will cheer you up today when you’re there for them and stab you in the back the following day when you are unable to continue to feed their needs.

You should understand that people are usually not who they claim to be. There will always be those who start the fires, those that fuel it up, and the ones that put them out.

You should understand that some people are very manipulative. They will flatter you with compliments and use you to help their plans succeed.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that people don’t owe you anything. You might have been responsible for where they are today, you were only a tool in the hand of God.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that sometimes people don’t hate you, they just don’t want you in their space anymore.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace. Do not let other people’s drama become drama in your spirit.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, do not let the behaviour of others make you think that everyone is ungrateful and manipulative. Learn to put your trust in God before you put your trust in anyone else.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, don’t ever let the shortcomings of others have you questioning yourself. You were never created to be loved by everyone and not everyone that knocks at your door should be given access to your life.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that people will leave your life for different reasons. You shouldn’t fall apart every time it happens. You shouldn’t shut the door of your heart to other people and you shouldn’t confuse your path with your destination.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that people will love you for different reasons. Choose the appropriate ones and cherish them.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that life goes on and there is that one person who will always quit on you, lie to you and hate on you, no matter how nice you are to them. Forgive them anyway and stop chasing people who can’t be bothered to match your efforts.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should get up every single day and never quit on yourself. Get up every day and never forget who you were before they broke your heart. Get up every day and wait for the person who prays with you, energizes you, motivates you, and supports you no matter what.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, never forget that God stays with you even when everyone else leaves. He is stronger than whatever it is that is making you anxious right now.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, always remember that the right person will come into your life at the right time.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, always remember that you don’t need a lot of friends, you only need a few who are trustworthy.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, don’t count the number of friends you have, count the number of friends you can trust.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, don’t complain about being lonely, ask God to help you find the right person knowing that after every disappointment comes a blessing.

I know you had their back when no one had theirs, you can’t help but let go of the people who are constantly trying to bring you down. You can’t help but keep away from as many people that have treated you badly in the past. You should only keep the ones who heard you when you never said a word.

I know it’s easier said than done, and I know it hurts when the ones you helped up then are the very ones kicking you right now to keep you down in your situation, you can’t help but be with someone who wants a future with you. You can’t help but, surround yourself with people who care about your happiness as much as you care about their happiness.

I know you have more questions than this letter could provide an answer to, and that’s why I want you to meditate on Philippians 4:6-7 (TLB). It says, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything; tell God your needs, and don’t forget to thank him for his answers. 7 If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will keep your thoughts and your hearts quiet and at rest as you trust in Christ Jesus”.

As you share this with someone that’s dealing with a disappointment today, it is my prayer that God will convert every disappointment in your life into a testimony. May you not suffer any disappointment from wherever you are having an expectation and may every pending disappointment in your life be turned to a delivered blessing.

May God keep you free of sadness and grief you that is reading this letter and in tears. May He honour and grant you your heart desires from wherever you have expectations. You shall be a blessing and not a disappointment to yourself and to your family.

In Him,
Ali Papa.


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You Are Not Alone In Living By Faith

Dear Someone,

If I were in your shoes, you that wanted love so badly, but couldn’t tell it wasn’t love that you have, I’d go straight to God, I’d throw myself on the mercy of God.

If I were in your shoes, you that is struggling to get started, you that have the itch about starting your own thing, I’d go straight to God, I’d throw myself on the mercy of God.

If I were in your shoes, you that from the first day you met them, they have become your most toxic addiction, I’d go straight to God, I’d throw myself on the mercy of God.

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Life Is Not A Straight Line

Dear Someone,

I don’t know who this is for, but understand me well as I type these words.

Your current challenges are not there to kill you but to build you up. They are not there to stay but to pass. Your current challenges are not the most difficult thing you’ve ever had to face — acknowledge them but do not live in them. Your mistakes are your own mentorship, they are part of your story — they are not who you are.

Irrespective of the turns and detours in your relationship, stop wondering and asking if they ever really loved you. Irrespective of the detours that life has thrown at you, understand that where you are right now is where you’re supposed to be. Understand that “Sometimes, your ‘Plan B’ is really God’s ‘Plan A’. And your “detours” are all a part of His plan for your life.”- Dr Sorke.

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Be Proud Of The Person You Are Becoming

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that is letting people who do so little for you control so much of your mind and emotions because of their actions and words.

I know this might sound strange to you at first, and possibly for a long time to come but as someone who once suffered from depression and overcame it, I want you to understand that the inaccurate version of you that people have created in their mind is not your responsibility just as the version of yourself that you have created in your own mind is not others’ responsibility.

The way people treat you, the names they call and labelled you with, the horrible things and lies they say about you, are all a reflection and a statement of who they are as a human being and not a true representation of who you are in the eyes of your creator.

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Don’t Be So Down On Yourself

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that’s been judged by people who only know your name and not your story. You that’s been judged by people you don’t even know simply because of your last name and for things that your family members have done way before you were born or thought of. You that have always been judged by people for just one mistake you’ve accidentally done. This letter is for you, you that have been judged by people you care about, ignored by those who said they’d never leave and hurt by the ones you love the most.

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You’re Not Your Past!

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that’s stuck in one way, shape, or form with an ex or somebody or something from your past. You that is hiding from an ex forgetting that they are in your past, not your future. You that is hurting from having someone in your heart, but can’t have them in your arms. This letter is for you, you that is depressed because you are living in the past.

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You Deserve The Love You Keep Trying To Give

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that is being ignored because you don’t fit in. You that’s being ignored because of something you know nothing about, you that is being ignored because you don’t know anyone and have no one to help. This letter is for you, you that have been ignored as if you were dead, as if you were a broken pot and you that’s tired of putting up with being ignored or shunned, spat at, and berated by those you once called your own or someone who means the world to you. If you think you would be the most popular in the universe if being ignored meant so, then this letter is for you.

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Be At Peace With Yourself

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that’s feeling alone, struggling emotionally, at war with yourself, and at the edge of giving up. This letter is for you, you that have been at war with yourself to the point where you are now traumatized, exhausted, questioning your purpose, future and your faith. It is my desire that when you are done reading this letter, you will find what I found when I was in your shoes — that through God’s faithfulness to His own promises, He alone can bring you healing through vistas of hope.

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Called To Rule And Reign

Dear Someone,

You have NEVER been called to be in fear. You have ONLY been called to be DETERMINED and to COOPERATE with Heaven.

God said to Abraham in Genesis 15:1 (KJV), “Fear not, I am thy shield, and thy exceeding great reward“. He said to Joshua in Joshua 8:1 (KJV), “Fear not, neither be thou dismayed“. He said to Gideon in Judges 6:23 (KJV), “fear not: thou shalt not die“. He said to Jacob in Isaiah 41:10 (MSG), “Don’t panic. I’m with you. There’s no need to fear for I’m your God. I’ll give you strength. I’ll help you. I’ll hold you steady, keep a firm grip on you“.

David knew this and he cooperated with Heaven. In 1 Chronicles 28:20 (KJV) David said to Solomon his son,”Be strong and of good courage, and do it: fear not, nor be dismayed: for the LORD God, even my God, will be with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee, until thou hast finished all the work for the service of the house of the LORD

Why are you in fear? What are you saying to yourself? What are you saying to your children? What are you saying to your body? What are you saying with your mouth in that situation? Are your words filled with fear or with faith? What can you see in that blessed mess? 2 Timothy 1:7 (KJV) says, “For God hath not given us the SPIRIT of FEAR; but of POWER, and of LOVE, and of a SOUND MIND“.

David was a man without the Holy Spirit but his words were in agreement with Heaven. He so mastered the Word he was bold enough to ask Solomon to walk without fear. If you are in the Spirit then you need to have the audacity of faith over every situation. If you are in Christ, you were not called into a life of fear. You were called to rule and to reign. Jesus said in Luke 12:32 (KJV), “Fear not, little flock; for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom“.

Beloved of the Most High, “God is on your side and you are more than a conqueror” (1 John 4:4). So fear not! The unreal never was and never will be, while the real always was and never ceases to be. Fear not to venture into new vocation; Fear not to transform to a better status; Fear not to give what it takes once you feel led to venture; Fear not to walk on “water”. In whatever street of life you are right now, “Fear not; you will no longer live in shame. Don’t be afraid; there is no more disgrace for you…” Isaiah 54:4 (NLT).

In Him,
Ali Papa.

Isaiah 43:1
Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine.