Don’t Be Afraid To Cut Off Toxic Ties

Dear Someone,

I don’t know if this is for you, but understand that God will come through for you in that situation. HE DOESN’T SHOW FAVORITISM and His timing are never early, never late. It’s always on time. What He did for another, He’s able to do much more for you! (Acts 10:34). Where there needed to be a turnaround, it will be turnaround.



If your marriage has become a blessed mess for you, stop thinking you will be stuck in that mess or situation forever. Stop thinking all you will ever get and continue to experience in your marriage are going to be rough patches, lies, disappointments and knockouts. It might not be immediately, but every marital mess has an expiration date, it doesn’t last forever.

If all you see in your marriage or relationship is darkness instead of light and love, stop thinking it is your responsibility to love and nurture the darkness and evil out of your partner. In your darkest of hours, in the midst of that confusion and negativity, don’t submit to the darkness even if you can’t see the light clearly and don’t think you will be trapped in that darkness forever. It might not be immediately, but darkness has an expiration date, it doesn’t last forever.

If you are heartbroken and deeply hurt by the very person you gave your all and heart to, stop feeling like your heart will never heal or you will never get out of that emotional struggle. It might not be immediately, but all negative emotions have an expiration date, they don’t last forever.

If your marriage was and is trying to suffocate life out of you, don’t bury yourself in your pain, don’t continue to hang around your abuser just to maintain the status quo and don’t let that disappointment keep you from enjoying your life. It might not be immediately, but all hatred and abuse have an expiration date, they don’t last forever.

If you are getting too stressed, too tired and overwhelmed with issues in your relationship or marriage, stop allowing your partner or spouse to keep pushing your buttons, deactivate the buttons instead and stop giving them the reaction they want. It might not be immediately, but understand that not everyone is meant to be a part of your life forever. Some people in your life have an expiration date, learn to let go and discard.

If you are having a lot of feelings you don’t want to feel and a lot of questions but not a lot of answers because you were rejected, you don’t have to let that rejection define you neither should you have to keep trying to see how everything is going to work out. There’s more to you than the part that was rejected. Trust in the Lord to do above and beyond what you ask or expect. It might not be immediately, but your feelings have an expiration date. Your questions have an expiration date, they don’t last forever.

If you’re drowning in your marriage or relationship because you’re always trying to be their anchor, stop trying to keep everything together when your world is falling apart and stop trying to fulfil a need that your partner cannot define. I know you have a good heart but learn to fight your own battles and not that of others. It might not be immediately, but the resources at your disposal are either limited or have an expiry date, they won’t last forever.

If every night of your life is always filled with arguments, silent cries, and crying yourself to sleep, stop letting the things they say or do get to you. See this daily nightmare as only a few scenes in the long movie of your life. Don’t treat them like it’s the whole story. Keep writing your story and keep looking for a way of escape from whatever it is that is destroying you and causing you pains. It might not be immediately, but your disagreements have an expiration date, they won’t last forever.

If your spouse or partner is daily living a lie and always trying to paint you to everyone as the bad person, don’t allow them to define you for who you are not. A lie doesn’t become truth, wrong doesn’t become right and evil doesn’t become good, just because they are louder than you. It might not be immediately, but lies have an expiry date, they don’t last forever.

If your marital crises have become a drama in a court of law because of how messy your divorce process has turned out to be, don’t be embarrassed about it and never be ashamed for it. It might not be immediately, but your trials, in any form, have an expiration date, they don’t last forever. Don’t confuse a season for a lifetime.

Regardless of how emotionally damaged you are in that relationship or marriage, you that stumbled on this letter, always remember that not everyone you lose is a loss. Some people are in your life for only a season — stop holding on to what has an expiration date.

Regardless of how much you have invested in the relationship or for how long you both have been together, let go of whatever that is destroying you knowing that all friendships and crushes have an expiration date. Let go knowing that your pain has an expiry date. Let go knowing that your memory of him or her has an expiration date.

Regardless of how much you love the one in your life and how far you are willing to give them a second, third, fourth and fifth chances, understand that not all love will last forever. Some have an expiration date except (hopefully) your relationship with yourself.

Regardless of whatever you do on earth, always remember that nobody lives forever. You have an expiry date. Don’t be afraid to live your life to the fullest and don’t be afraid to cut off toxic ties. Your detractors and those that resent you will have something to say but remind them it is not your job to make them happy.

Regardless of whatever you do on earth, always remember that every opportunity has an expiration date. Don’t die in that toxic marriage or relationship with all the red flags you are seeing — save your life while you still can. Don’t stay in silent hell just because you want to maintain the status quo.

Regardless of whatever you do on earth, always remember that their foolishness towards you have an expiration date, don’t ever regret meeting that unreasonable person and don’t ever regret putting too much into them that you didn’t get back. One day you will realize they taught you the most important lesson in your life!

Regardless of whatever you do on earth, always remember that your emotional struggles have an expiration date, don’t give up on yourself and God because of a man or woman who couldn’t see your worth. That heartbreak is always an inevitable win for you on the long run.

Regardless of whatever you do on earth, always remember that every rubbish has an expiry date, don’t listen to every counsel and don’t allow their negative words to become your reality. Have a good heart and be true to it!

Regardless of whatever you do on earth, always remember that every job has an expiration date — know when your time is up in that mess. It was never your job to fix everything that is wrong with your partner. It should’ve been the two of you working on the relationship, not you doing it all alone.

Regardless of whatever you do on earth, always remember that apologies have an expiration date, know when you are emotionally being manipulated and choose your people carefully. You’re not a rug to be walked all over on.

Regardless of whatever you do on earth, always remember that loyalty has an expiration date, know your enemy and be careful who you open up to. The people closest to you are the ones who know how to make you feel worthless.

Until tomorrow, and regardless of whatever you are going through right now, reach out to those you know are hurting and lonely as hell. Irrespective of how love makes you feel, remember those going through a divorce. Reach out and tell them they are not forgotten. Reach out because everyone deserves to feel like they are loved. I just reached out to you through this letter.

Be encouraged!
Ali Papa.

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Never Let The Shortcomings Of Others Have You Questioning Yourself

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that end up getting disappointed thinking that people will care for you the way you cared for them. This letter is for you, you that end up getting disappointed thinking things last forever.

You should understand that not everybody has your heart or sense of empathy like they say they do. Some people judge before they try to understand. There are others who will believe false accusations about you without trying to know the facts.

You should understand that not everybody cares about what goes on in your life. Sometimes it is the ones you did the most for that will quit on you.

You should understand that not everybody you cared for, did so much for, and considered as friends, will always act like you exist.

You should understand that people will always have the capacity to let you down some way or another and that has nothing to do with you at all. People’s true colours get revealed when things get real.

You should understand that not everybody that says they will be there for you, will. Some people came into your life to either put you in difficult times or leave you there.

You should understand that not everybody will be on your side, even Jesus Christ had critics and had a disciple in Judas turned against Him. Just because you were nice to them, or right by them doesn’t mean they will do right by you.

You should understand that not everybody around you is going to go along for the ride and not everyone who promises will stay until the end.

You should understand that human love is very fickle. People will cheer you up today when you’re there for them and stab you in the back the following day when you are unable to continue to feed their needs.

You should understand that people are usually not who they claim to be. There will always be those who start the fires, those that fuel it up, and the ones that put them out.

You should understand that some people are very manipulative. They will flatter you with compliments and use you to help their plans succeed.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that people don’t owe you anything. You might have been responsible for where they are today, you were only a tool in the hand of God.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that sometimes people don’t hate you, they just don’t want you in their space anymore.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace. Do not let other people’s drama become drama in your spirit.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, do not let the behaviour of others make you think that everyone is ungrateful and manipulative. Learn to put your trust in God before you put your trust in anyone else.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, don’t ever let the shortcomings of others have you questioning yourself. You were never created to be loved by everyone and not everyone that knocks at your door should be given access to your life.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that people will leave your life for different reasons. You shouldn’t fall apart every time it happens. You shouldn’t shut the door of your heart to other people and you shouldn’t confuse your path with your destination.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that people will love you for different reasons. Choose the appropriate ones and cherish them.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that life goes on and there is that one person who will always quit on you, lie to you and hate on you, no matter how nice you are to them. Forgive them anyway and stop chasing people who can’t be bothered to match your efforts.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should get up every single day and never quit on yourself. Get up every day and never forget who you were before they broke your heart. Get up every day and wait for the person who prays with you, energizes you, motivates you, and supports you no matter what.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, never forget that God stays with you even when everyone else leaves. He is stronger than whatever it is that is making you anxious right now.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, always remember that the right person will come into your life at the right time.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, always remember that you don’t need a lot of friends, you only need a few who are trustworthy.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, don’t count the number of friends you have, count the number of friends you can trust.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, don’t complain about being lonely, ask God to help you find the right person knowing that after every disappointment comes a blessing.

I know you had their back when no one had theirs, you can’t help but let go of the people who are constantly trying to bring you down. You can’t help but keep away from as many people that have treated you badly in the past. You should only keep the ones who heard you when you never said a word.

I know it’s easier said than done, and I know it hurts when the ones you helped up then are the very ones kicking you right now to keep you down in your situation, you can’t help but be with someone who wants a future with you. You can’t help but, surround yourself with people who care about your happiness as much as you care about their happiness.

I know you have more questions than this letter could provide an answer to, and that’s why I want you to meditate on Philippians 4:6-7 (TLB). It says, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything; tell God your needs, and don’t forget to thank him for his answers. 7 If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will keep your thoughts and your hearts quiet and at rest as you trust in Christ Jesus”.

As you share this with someone that’s dealing with a disappointment today, it is my prayer that God will convert every disappointment in your life into a testimony. May you not suffer any disappointment from wherever you are having an expectation and may every pending disappointment in your life be turned to a delivered blessing.

May God keep you free of sadness and grief you that is reading this letter and in tears. May He honour and grant you your heart desires from wherever you have expectations. You shall be a blessing and not a disappointment to yourself and to your family.

In Him,
Ali Papa.


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You Are Not Alone In Living By Faith

Dear Someone,

If I were in your shoes, you that wanted love so badly, but couldn’t tell it wasn’t love that you have, I’d go straight to God, I’d throw myself on the mercy of God.

If I were in your shoes, you that is struggling to get started, you that have the itch about starting your own thing, I’d go straight to God, I’d throw myself on the mercy of God.

If I were in your shoes, you that from the first day you met them, they have become your most toxic addiction, I’d go straight to God, I’d throw myself on the mercy of God.

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Life Is For The Living

Dear Someone,

Life might have done nothing more than let you down, you that was hoping that by now you would have been married and settled down. Life might have done nothing, but continue to be dull for you, you that is struggling to make ends meet.

Life might have done nothing, but make you feel like you are alone and worthless, you that is unappreciated and miserable in your relationship or marriage. Life might have done nothing, but treat you badly, you that was betrayed but the very person you trusted the most.

Life might have done nothing, but tear and keep you down, you that is battling with health challenges. Life might have done nothing, but disappoint you, you that was rejected, abandoned and left with many questions without answers.

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God Has A Plan

Dear Someone,

I just prayed this prayer for you, you that have chosen to love in silence just because you find no rejection in it. You whose friendship, love, help, and service was rejected and left with more scars. May someone hug you so tight one day that all your broken pieces will stick back together. May God give you the strength to press on from that rejection. May He teach you to know that every rejection is just a step to a bigger and better acceptance and may your next blessing far outweigh the emotional battles and trauma that you are going through in Jesus Name.

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Your Shift Is Coming

Dear Someone,

I just prayed this prayer for you, you that is afraid and ashamed to tell your story because of how you will be perceived. May God take every part of your journey, edit your mistakes, rewrite an incredible story and make all go well with you. May your life always bring praises to God when people remember you (Philippians 1:3-4). This week, may every mouth that are planning or ready to mock you, begin to celebrate and congratulate you in the mighty Name of Jesus.

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Weekly Prayers: Favour Shall See You Through

Dear Someone,

I just prayed this prayer for you, you that don’t know how to dry the tears that keep rolling down your face and you that’s feeling like you are in the wrong movie, asking where is the director and producer.

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