Stop Looking For Another Version Of You

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that haven’t been on a date in a long time. You that is asking yourself daily if something is wrong with you. You that is forever wondering how that all your friends were able to stay happy in long term relationships and you are not. You that’s trying to figure out where it all went wrong. You that doesn’t have a social life anymore. You that is 40 and always feeling like you are 60. This letter is for you, you that don’t know why you think you are unlovable.

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You’re Not Meant For A Sissy

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that was left and abandoned because they felt there was nothing left in you. You that is almost choking to death on the thought of them being with someone else. You that is feeling like you are going to die every time it dawns on you that you are never going to have him or her back in your life again. You that have become your own blanket and your blanket has become you.

This letter is for you, you that is thinking that his or her heart may not have any space for you again. You that is still wondering how they can easily let go of someone they said they love the most. You that is making excuses and playing the victim card for the one that left you for another person. You that have come to realize that getting no message from me the one you love is also a message. You whose heart gets heavier day and night looking for how to get your ex back into your life.

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Singles: Be Proud Of Who You Are

Dear Someone,

Honestly, I don’t know if you are single and desiring to be married, but on the off chance that you are, this letter is for you. As usual, it’s a long one but I need you to stop worrying after reading it. I’m also writing this for someone that’s feeling so helpless that they don’t know the next step to take. Someone who is worried that so many people are getting engaged at this time while he or she is still single and with no sign of anyone ever coming around to say hello. Someone who is going around feeling old because everyone around them is getting married and having kids.

You that is worried right now that it’s almost 2019 and despite entering 2018 as a single, you are still single, this letter is for you. You that was asked one of the most annoying questions, “why you’re still single?”, at Christmas by your family members, this letter is for you. You that is wondering if your family has given up on you since not a single person asked you if you are still single this year, this letter is for you. You that’s still being pushed around by your problems, this letter is for you. You that is feeling sad over those that gave up on you and you that’s allowing others dim your light simply because it’s shining in their eyes, this letter is for you.

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Time and Chance

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You don’t meet people by accident. Never take advantage of the people in your life, you may never find them again. Look back in life at the people God sent your way and you took advantage of them. They have all gone and living their separate lives, but you may never meet them again. You don’t meet people by accident. There is always a reason – a lesson or a blessing. There’s no such thing as a coincidence.

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Recovering from divorce (3)

“Whether it’s a new relationship, another career, or a particular achievement, God will see to it that you find fulfilment again. This is the place where complaining is never heard because you no longer need to rehearse old memories of failure or betrayal. The God who said, ‘Behold, I make all things new’ (Revelation 21:5 NKJV), is giving you a new future, and you refuse to trade it for the pain of your past.”

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Recovering From Divorce (1)

“Have you been crushed by someone you trusted? Does loneliness overwhelm you in the midnight hours? Do you feel as though your hands are completely tied? Does it upset you because your friends don’t seem to understand? Don’t despair – your present circumstances will change. You will recover; you will rebuild; you will not stay down.

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Silent Hell

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Beloved of God,

Many relationships and marriages today are in trouble because they all demands a lot of emotional investment and decisions which are taken with the heart rather than with the mind. I have seen beautiful people in ugly places and damaged people in beautiful places. No one, I mean no one, deserves to be in a bad relationship or marriage – it leads to broken hearts. And a broken heart is the result of a broken relationship or marriage that fails to stand the test of time.  A broken heart leads to several deep wounds in the heart which take a lot of time to heal. A broken heart is a door to silent hell.

In the words of Leke Alder, “If you choose to marry someone you don’t love or who doesn’t love you, you married a stranger essentially. Without love couples are emotional strangers in cohabitation. The lack of love and affection will of course produce indifference, which then produces emotional torture. That emotional indifference can easily lead to adultery and hatred. Then the home becomes hell. And couples don’t have to have a shouting match before a marriage becomes hell. There are silent hells. When your spouse quietly tolerates you, you know you’re in a silent hell. When your spouse makes no complaint but won’t touch you, you know you’re in silent hell. When you and your spouse don’t quarrel but your marriage is essentially functional, you’re in silent hell. When the state of the marriage makes even the food stale and you have to swallow it, you’re in silent hell. And when you can’t solve a marriage problem however you wish or try, you’re in silent hell. When to all appearances you’re a wonderful couple but can’t stand each other you’re in silent hell. A good marriage is heaven. A bad marriage is hell. It’s that simple. Why risk putting yourself in jail for twenty years. If it’s obvious it can’t work let it be. “I want it to work” is sometimes an expression of foolishness. Don’t put yourself in silent hell. That’s not an accommodation you should go for”

You are better a deadbeat than a convict. If you can’t save your marriage, save your dignity! Walk away from anyone who tries to kill, destroy or walk all over you! No matter how hard you work to make your marriage turn out the way you want it, your partner’s behavior is not yours to control.

Brothers and sisters, I don’t know how “blessed your mess” is. I don’t know in which street of life you live. I also don’t know the challenges in your marriage and I may never know how lonely you are but I agree with him that putting yourself in silent hell is not an accommodation you should go for. You may not be man enough to handle all the drama in your marriage but you can be man enough to know when to walk away. You are better a deadbeat than a convict. If you can’t save your marriage, save your dignity! Walk away from anyone who tries to kill, destroy or walk all over you! No matter how hard you work to make your marriage turn out the way you want it, your partner’s behavior is not yours to control.

Think about your situation and always remember that a broken relationship or marriage is like a shattered vase; it may be better to leave it broken than to hurt yourself again trying to fix it.

Be blessed in the Lord’s Grace.

In Him,
~Ali Papa.

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Stay The Course (10)

Dearly Beloved,

Many times in your journey of life,  your actions will be perceived differently than how you meant them to be perceived. You will be misunderstood and your motives will be called into question. Whenever you try to do something you will risk rejection, you will risk ridicule, and you will be misunderstood. That’s life but don’t allow that to stop you. Many times it will shock you to hear what others thought about you, especially when you knew your intentions were right. You may have meant one thing, but everyone may have seemed to perceive something totally different from what you intended. At such times, you must remind yourself that you are not alone. Jesus was misunderstood. He suffered in the hands of men. In His short lifetime He encountered both love and hate, acceptance and rejection, belief and unbelief. Jesus lived with people who understood Him and with those who misunderstood Him.

There may be sometimes when someone may question your motives when you are trying to get the blessing from God. Someone may think you want that to be puffed up. You want that job so you can be a big shot. You want that so you can be better than others. Your Pastor and folks in the church may even misunderstand your motives, but persevere in your prayer anyway.

Do you feel misunderstood and forsaken by the people you love? Have you been falsely accused and stripped of everything, without a dime to your name? Don’t cry. Don’t quit. Don’t pack your bags yet. Back off, take some time to think and pray about the matter before you proceed. Don’t let the devil get you all upset because you were misunderstood. Stay the course and on purpose because our Lord knows how to relate to you in your situation. He has been there and He is in it with you. He said to us in John 16:33, “These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world”.

So I say to you today to be of good cheer. You will always be misunderstood, mistreated, and maligned but again, stay the course and on purpose. Joseph was misunderstood, mistreated, and maligned but he stayed the course and everything worked together for his good. Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose”.

You know the story of Hannah in 1 Samuel 1:1-21. The Bible says the other wife, the adversary, mocked her, tormented her, and used every opportunity available to show her she is barren. Even the prophet, when he saw Hannah praying, thought she was drunk. The prophet misunderstood her, but that didn’t stop God. God has decided her time and season. When her day came, the mockers were silenced. All things worked together for her good.

If in your place of work, you did something you thought was good and required commendation, but instead you found yourself being persecuted for your good works, don’t feel bad about it. Just because you’re good and doing the right thing doesn’t mean everybody is going to be cheering you on. There might be those that’ll resist you, and try to make you stray away from your path; they might even call you evil, in spite of your good works; you must maintain your composure. Refuse to change. Stay the course with the Word of God in your heart and in your mouth. As you do, keep manifesting His righteousness, no matter the criticism’ and you’ll always win.

Learn to give Him thanks in every situation. If they treated you bad, give Him thanks. if they lied against you, give Him thanks. If they hate you, give Him thanks. If they misunderstood you, give Him thanks. Give Him thanks for this is the will of God for you – 1 Thessalonians 5:18. No matter how dark and hopeless the situation may look – give Him thanks. Today, give Him thanks! It doesn’t matter if what you’re praying for is yet to materialize. It doesn’t matter who is against you in your office or in your home. It doesn’t matter where they are planning against you. It  doesn’t matter how deep the valley is. He will walk with you. He will comfort you – Psalm 23:4. It doesn’t count who is trying to bring you down or talk down on you, “…God will never let you down; He’ll never let you be pushed past your limit; He’ll always be there to help you come through it”. (1 Corinthians 10:13 Message).

Hannah prayed from her heart, and Eli thought she was drunk because people who pray are most generally misunderstood (1 Samuel 1:14). So don’t be discouraged when you are misunderstood. “Don’t be afraid… The LORD himself will fight for you. Just stay calm.” – Exodus 14:13-14 NLT. When you have been wounded, unfairly treated and misunderstood, forgive and stay the course. Be strong. Take courage. Don’t be intimidated. Don’t give them a second thought because God, your God, is striding ahead of you. He’s right there with you. He won’t let you down; he won’t leave you – Deuteronomy 31:6 MSG.

God is your present help. You can call out to Him and He will answer AND deliver. Rest, knowing that what looked like a really bad situation is about to become your praise report that God really does use ALL things for your good.

In His Service,
Ali Papa.
@IamAlipapa