Singles: Be Proud Of Who You Are

Dear Someone,

Honestly, I don’t know if you are single and desiring to be married, but on the off chance that you are, this letter is for you. As usual, it’s a long one but I need you to stop worrying after reading it. I’m also writing this for someone that’s feeling so helpless that they don’t know the next step to take. Someone who is worried that so many people are getting engaged at this time while he or she is still single and with no sign of anyone ever coming around to say hello. Someone who is going around feeling old because everyone around them is getting married and having kids.

You that is worried right now that it’s almost 2019 and despite entering 2018 as a single, you are still single, this letter is for you. You that was asked one of the most annoying questions, “why you’re still single?”, at Christmas by your family members, this letter is for you. You that is wondering if your family has given up on you since not a single person asked you if you are still single this year, this letter is for you. You that’s still being pushed around by your problems, this letter is for you. You that is feeling sad over those that gave up on you and you that’s allowing others dim your light simply because it’s shining in their eyes, this letter is for you.

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Time and Chance

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You don’t meet people by accident. Never take advantage of the people in your life, you may never find them again. Look back in life at the people God sent your way and you took advantage of them. They have all gone and living their separate lives, but you may never meet them again. You don’t meet people by accident. There is always a reason – a lesson or a blessing. There’s no such thing as a coincidence.

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Recovering from divorce (3)

“Whether it’s a new relationship, another career, or a particular achievement, God will see to it that you find fulfilment again. This is the place where complaining is never heard because you no longer need to rehearse old memories of failure or betrayal. The God who said, ‘Behold, I make all things new’ (Revelation 21:5 NKJV), is giving you a new future, and you refuse to trade it for the pain of your past.”

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Recovering From Divorce (1)

“Have you been crushed by someone you trusted? Does loneliness overwhelm you in the midnight hours? Do you feel as though your hands are completely tied? Does it upset you because your friends don’t seem to understand? Don’t despair – your present circumstances will change. You will recover; you will rebuild; you will not stay down.

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Silent Hell

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Beloved of God,

Many relationships and marriages today are in trouble because they all demands a lot of emotional investment and decisions which are taken with the heart rather than with the mind. I have seen beautiful people in ugly places and damaged people in beautiful places. No one, I mean no one, deserves to be in a bad relationship or marriage – it leads to broken hearts. And a broken heart is the result of a broken relationship or marriage that fails to stand the test of time.  A broken heart leads to several deep wounds in the heart which take a lot of time to heal. A broken heart is a door to silent hell.

In the words of Leke Alder, “If you choose to marry someone you don’t love or who doesn’t love you, you married a stranger essentially. Without love couples are emotional strangers in cohabitation. The lack of love and affection will of course produce indifference, which then produces emotional torture. That emotional indifference can easily lead to adultery and hatred. Then the home becomes hell. And couples don’t have to have a shouting match before a marriage becomes hell. There are silent hells. When your spouse quietly tolerates you, you know you’re in a silent hell. When your spouse makes no complaint but won’t touch you, you know you’re in silent hell. When you and your spouse don’t quarrel but your marriage is essentially functional, you’re in silent hell. When the state of the marriage makes even the food stale and you have to swallow it, you’re in silent hell. And when you can’t solve a marriage problem however you wish or try, you’re in silent hell. When to all appearances you’re a wonderful couple but can’t stand each other you’re in silent hell. A good marriage is heaven. A bad marriage is hell. It’s that simple. Why risk putting yourself in jail for twenty years. If it’s obvious it can’t work let it be. “I want it to work” is sometimes an expression of foolishness. Don’t put yourself in silent hell. That’s not an accommodation you should go for”

You are better a deadbeat than a convict. If you can’t save your marriage, save your dignity! Walk away from anyone who tries to kill, destroy or walk all over you! No matter how hard you work to make your marriage turn out the way you want it, your partner’s behavior is not yours to control.

Brothers and sisters, I don’t know how “blessed your mess” is. I don’t know in which street of life you live. I also don’t know the challenges in your marriage and I may never know how lonely you are but I agree with him that putting yourself in silent hell is not an accommodation you should go for. You may not be man enough to handle all the drama in your marriage but you can be man enough to know when to walk away. You are better a deadbeat than a convict. If you can’t save your marriage, save your dignity! Walk away from anyone who tries to kill, destroy or walk all over you! No matter how hard you work to make your marriage turn out the way you want it, your partner’s behavior is not yours to control.

Think about your situation and always remember that a broken relationship or marriage is like a shattered vase; it may be better to leave it broken than to hurt yourself again trying to fix it.

Be blessed in the Lord’s Grace.

In Him,
~Ali Papa.

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