Where There Is Pain, There Is Healing

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that is on a diet of tears — tears for breakfast, and tears for supper; you that have had enough of everything that can possibly go wrong and you that is feeling like you have nothing left to give to anyone and to yourself.

I’ve been wanting to write you this letter for a while, but because of other life obligations, I’ve not been able to. I understand all you want right now is to escape life, hide your head, run away, curl up in a ball, sleep forever and never wake up simply because all everyone has been asking you nosily are, “Where is your God?”

You should understand that in your walk of life, people will laugh, talk about you and ask where is your God when you are facing trials. Many are those that would be watching you as you go through your situation wondering where is your God. Allow them to watch you because the One that is watching you from above is the One that called you by His Name.

It doesn’t matter what the enemy says. It matters what God says. It doesn’t matter who doesn’t like you and how bad things are for you right now — stay the course and on purpose knowing that God called you by His Name — not your name (Isaiah 49:1). He created you — you didn’t create yourself. Rather than looking for a dark place to hide, spend time with people who see what God is doing in you and focus on those who will celebrate you. Soon, they will see the evident hand of God in your life.

Irrespective of how empty or how used and emotionally drained you may feel right now, you’re still breathing. Take a step back, and take a deep breath knowing that every breath counts! Take a deep breath knowing that God is on your side and every need would be met according to His Word. Take a deep breath and appreciate the good things in life even if right now you’re at your breaking point with nothing left to give.

In that storm that you are in, the devil will whisper, “where is your God?” He will remind you of your past mistakes and failures, but learn to encourage yourself and to be strong in the Lord. He asked David where was his God. He asked Lazarus where was his God. The people cried out to Jesus Christ on the cross “where is your GOD now?”, “You can’t help yourself”. But we know He did.

Today, more than ever before, expect God to act whenever the devil comes to make you feel like you’re about to lose your mind. Always remind him that the day you gave your life to Christ was the day you lost your mind to gain the mind of Christ. Remind him that having a bad day is not the same as having a bad life. Pull yourself up out of that bed because God is near to you. If you don’t, no one is going to do it for you.

If you have tried all that you know to do and still can’t find your feet, don’t be embarrassed. Don’t be embarrassed by your struggles, failures, mistakes and the things you go through in life. Don’t be embarrassed by who you’re becoming, your eagerness, your honest vulnerabilities, and the things you cannot do to help yourself out of your present situation. Though you will be judged no matter what you do, refuse to be defined by what people say about you. God is still your ONLY help in that situation.

If your love life has put you in a desolate, dark and desperate place, don’t be embarrassed. Don’t be embarrassed by love, your feelings for anyone and the things and people you have tolerated in the past. It is better to regret the things that you have done than regret the things you haven’t done. Honour your feelings, forgive those that have hurt you, and continue to be true to yourself knowing that everything happens for a reason.

For the woman who still hasn’t forgiven herself for the abortion she had some years back, understand that we are products of our past, but we don’t have to be held hostage for it either from anyone or by your own doing. You may have made too many mistakes, and daily being haunted by your poor choices but you should never be embarrassed by your stories and past behaviours. They are yours and you should never allow people to make you feel bad or guilty for living your life the way you did or want to live it going forward.

You whose partner, husband or wife left you, you whose kids left you, you that have lost your job and about to lose your mind, you that is looking for a way to disappear from everything and everyone because of how they make you feel, this letter is for you.

When everything is confusing and you’re about to lose your mind, try to remember, it’s only the middle of the chapter. Remind yourself that things will get better for you. Remind yourself that it doesn’t matter who is laughing at you now; with God on your side, you would laugh last.

It doesn’t matter who is expecting your downfall, they will be proven wrong. Those who said you will not make it will be disappointed. Don’t fold because people are expecting your downfall, arise and shine.

You that’s feeling less of a human because you have been told repeatedly by those in your life that you will never amount to anything, you that have to deal with criticism from your partner or spouse on a daily basis, this letter is for you.

Make up your mind today, to release every person that has criticized you or tried to discourage you. Choose to forgive them; choose to turn away from that distraction. Choose to focus on Him and the blessings He has in store for you. You may not be where you want to be right now but remember, God is at work in your life. God doesn’t want you to live in the past. He wants you to keep growing and moving forward.

Refuse to be a stranger to the world and to yourself irrespective of how you feel right now. Keep calm, keep moving forward, and keep trusting that God is with you wherever you go. Remind yourself that God was there before the problem occurred. He has said in Hebrews 13:5 (TLB), “I will never, never fail you nor forsake you.”

It doesn’t matter if you are wondering and asking yourself if God has changed. He hasn’t! Let go of every feeling that is overwhelming you and remember how heartbroken you were a year ago, not knowing if you were going to make it this far. You are still here and it was God that brought you this far.

It doesn’t matter if you don’t feel God’s loving-kindness in your life anymore, remember all the things that should have killed you but you survived them. It was God that protected you from them all. So never allow your circumstances to steal your peace and joy. Always have the attitude that says, “This may be a big problem, but my God is bigger!”

Whenever you are worried God will forsake you forever, remember you are not the first to go through what has befallen you right now. If He came through for you in the past when no one was there for you, He will take you through this too. Don’t let doubt and discouragement distract you from trusting God. Keep believing, keep hoping, keep enduring and keep asking because the one you called your God is always faithful to His word!

Whenever you are thinking your life is not worth it anymore, just remember that God didn’t bring you this far to leave you (Philippians 1:6). He said in Isaiah 46:4 (TLB) says, “I will be your God through all your lifetime, yes, even when your hair is white with age. I made you and I will care for you. I will carry you along and be your Savior”.

Today more than ever before, stop focusing on your challenges, stop focusing on that pain, stop focusing on those that left you heartbroken, focus on God knowing that He is there with you. Focus on His perfect plan knowing that God is still a good God. Focus on His love for you knowing that all things will eventually work together for your good.

Don’t forget also that while you are crying your eyes to sleep because of the one that left you heartbroken, someone, somewhere, is battling for their lives. You have yours, do something with it! While you are unhappy, feeling unfilled and forgotten by God, you should be happy with the life you have because someone somewhere is fighting for theirs. Someone, somewhere, is wishing they have the life you are living.

While you are complaining, thinking that you are at your wit’s end because of this challenge, this mess, this drama and this circle of shame, and pain that has lasted for too long, remember that someone, somewhere is fighting to survive. Someone somewhere is depending on you to do what God has called you to do. Someone somewhere is wishing they are in your position. So be grateful, and keep moving by faith even when you feel like giving up.

I want you to enjoy the little things you can still see around you as you read this letter, for one day you may look back and realise they were the big things. Take out some time daily to reflect on how much you have. It may not be all that you want but remember that someone somewhere is dreaming to have what you have.

Keep asking God for more but thank Him for each and everything that you already have. Matthew 7:7-8 (KJV) says, “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened”.

May God answer you and encourage you by giving you the strength you need whenever you pray to Him (Psalms 138:3). May He change every desolate place in your life to a beautiful place for you.

May no one ever see you and ask where is your God. Wherever people have been asking where is your God, He will manifest Himself in your favour and to the shame of your foes. May He take away every reproach that causes people to ask: “Where is your God?” in Jesus Name.

May His light and love for you always shine brighter and brighter even in your darkest days. May He hear what you want, listen to your prayers, and do what you ask of Him — Psalms 10:17 (ERV).

In His Service,
Ali Papa.


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Never Let The Shortcomings Of Others Have You Questioning Yourself

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that end up getting disappointed thinking that people will care for you the way you cared for them. This letter is for you, you that end up getting disappointed thinking things last forever.

You should understand that not everybody has your heart or sense of empathy like they say they do. Some people judge before they try to understand. There are others who will believe false accusations about you without trying to know the facts.

You should understand that not everybody cares about what goes on in your life. Sometimes it is the ones you did the most for that will quit on you.

You should understand that not everybody you cared for, did so much for, and considered as friends, will always act like you exist.

You should understand that people will always have the capacity to let you down some way or another and that has nothing to do with you at all. People’s true colours get revealed when things get real.

You should understand that not everybody that says they will be there for you, will. Some people came into your life to either put you in difficult times or leave you there.

You should understand that not everybody will be on your side, even Jesus Christ had critics and had a disciple in Judas turned against Him. Just because you were nice to them, or right by them doesn’t mean they will do right by you.

You should understand that not everybody around you is going to go along for the ride and not everyone who promises will stay until the end.

You should understand that human love is very fickle. People will cheer you up today when you’re there for them and stab you in the back the following day when you are unable to continue to feed their needs.

You should understand that people are usually not who they claim to be. There will always be those who start the fires, those that fuel it up, and the ones that put them out.

You should understand that some people are very manipulative. They will flatter you with compliments and use you to help their plans succeed.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that people don’t owe you anything. You might have been responsible for where they are today, you were only a tool in the hand of God.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that sometimes people don’t hate you, they just don’t want you in their space anymore.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace. Do not let other people’s drama become drama in your spirit.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, do not let the behaviour of others make you think that everyone is ungrateful and manipulative. Learn to put your trust in God before you put your trust in anyone else.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, don’t ever let the shortcomings of others have you questioning yourself. You were never created to be loved by everyone and not everyone that knocks at your door should be given access to your life.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that people will leave your life for different reasons. You shouldn’t fall apart every time it happens. You shouldn’t shut the door of your heart to other people and you shouldn’t confuse your path with your destination.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that people will love you for different reasons. Choose the appropriate ones and cherish them.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that life goes on and there is that one person who will always quit on you, lie to you and hate on you, no matter how nice you are to them. Forgive them anyway and stop chasing people who can’t be bothered to match your efforts.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should get up every single day and never quit on yourself. Get up every day and never forget who you were before they broke your heart. Get up every day and wait for the person who prays with you, energizes you, motivates you, and supports you no matter what.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, never forget that God stays with you even when everyone else leaves. He is stronger than whatever it is that is making you anxious right now.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, always remember that the right person will come into your life at the right time.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, always remember that you don’t need a lot of friends, you only need a few who are trustworthy.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, don’t count the number of friends you have, count the number of friends you can trust.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, don’t complain about being lonely, ask God to help you find the right person knowing that after every disappointment comes a blessing.

I know you had their back when no one had theirs, you can’t help but let go of the people who are constantly trying to bring you down. You can’t help but keep away from as many people that have treated you badly in the past. You should only keep the ones who heard you when you never said a word.

I know it’s easier said than done, and I know it hurts when the ones you helped up then are the very ones kicking you right now to keep you down in your situation, you can’t help but be with someone who wants a future with you. You can’t help but, surround yourself with people who care about your happiness as much as you care about their happiness.

I know you have more questions than this letter could provide an answer to, and that’s why I want you to meditate on Philippians 4:6-7 (TLB). It says, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything; tell God your needs, and don’t forget to thank him for his answers. 7 If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will keep your thoughts and your hearts quiet and at rest as you trust in Christ Jesus”.

As you share this with someone that’s dealing with a disappointment today, it is my prayer that God will convert every disappointment in your life into a testimony. May you not suffer any disappointment from wherever you are having an expectation and may every pending disappointment in your life be turned to a delivered blessing.

May God keep you free of sadness and grief you that is reading this letter and in tears. May He honour and grant you your heart desires from wherever you have expectations. You shall be a blessing and not a disappointment to yourself and to your family.

In Him,
Ali Papa.


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Stop Putting Your Self-esteem In The Hands Of Others

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that is stranded somewhere between wanting them back and letting them go. You that’s wondering if you should mend it or let it go. You that is thinking that he or she is probably just the right person but wrong timing, or maybe because you’re just too messed up emotionally to be loved by anyone. This letter is for you, if you think I am writing about you. I hope that you will continue reading?

I know you want me to give you answers as to why people do the things they do. I am sorry to say that you may not get them, at least not in this letter. You won’t get them because life isn’t a TV episode in which everything gets neatly wrapped up with a satisfying conclusion.

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You Deserve The Love You Keep Trying To Give

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that is being ignored because you don’t fit in. You that’s being ignored because of something you know nothing about, you that is being ignored because you don’t know anyone and have no one to help. This letter is for you, you that have been ignored as if you were dead, as if you were a broken pot and you that’s tired of putting up with being ignored or shunned, spat at, and berated by those you once called your own or someone who means the world to you. If you think you would be the most popular in the universe if being ignored meant so, then this letter is for you.

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Be At Peace With Yourself

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that’s feeling alone, struggling emotionally, at war with yourself, and at the edge of giving up. This letter is for you, you that have been at war with yourself to the point where you are now traumatized, exhausted, questioning your purpose, future and your faith. It is my desire that when you are done reading this letter, you will find what I found when I was in your shoes — that through God’s faithfulness to His own promises, He alone can bring you healing through vistas of hope.

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