Never Let The Shortcomings Of Others Have You Questioning Yourself

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that end up getting disappointed thinking that people will care for you the way you cared for them. This letter is for you, you that end up getting disappointed thinking things last forever.

You should understand that not everybody has your heart or sense of empathy like they say they do. Some people judge before they try to understand. There are others who will believe false accusations about you without trying to know the facts.

You should understand that not everybody cares about what goes on in your life. Sometimes it is the ones you did the most for that will quit on you.

You should understand that not everybody you cared for, did so much for, and considered as friends, will always act like you exist.

You should understand that people will always have the capacity to let you down some way or another and that has nothing to do with you at all. People’s true colours get revealed when things get real.

You should understand that not everybody that says they will be there for you, will. Some people came into your life to either put you in difficult times or leave you there.

You should understand that not everybody will be on your side, even Jesus Christ had critics and had a disciple in Judas turned against Him. Just because you were nice to them, or right by them doesn’t mean they will do right by you.

You should understand that not everybody around you is going to go along for the ride and not everyone who promises will stay until the end.

You should understand that human love is very fickle. People will cheer you up today when you’re there for them and stab you in the back the following day when you are unable to continue to feed their needs.

You should understand that people are usually not who they claim to be. There will always be those who start the fires, those that fuel it up, and the ones that put them out.

You should understand that some people are very manipulative. They will flatter you with compliments and use you to help their plans succeed.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that people don’t owe you anything. You might have been responsible for where they are today, you were only a tool in the hand of God.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that sometimes people don’t hate you, they just don’t want you in their space anymore.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace. Do not let other people’s drama become drama in your spirit.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, do not let the behaviour of others make you think that everyone is ungrateful and manipulative. Learn to put your trust in God before you put your trust in anyone else.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, don’t ever let the shortcomings of others have you questioning yourself. You were never created to be loved by everyone and not everyone that knocks at your door should be given access to your life.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that people will leave your life for different reasons. You shouldn’t fall apart every time it happens. You shouldn’t shut the door of your heart to other people and you shouldn’t confuse your path with your destination.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that people will love you for different reasons. Choose the appropriate ones and cherish them.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should understand that life goes on and there is that one person who will always quit on you, lie to you and hate on you, no matter how nice you are to them. Forgive them anyway and stop chasing people who can’t be bothered to match your efforts.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, you should get up every single day and never quit on yourself. Get up every day and never forget who you were before they broke your heart. Get up every day and wait for the person who prays with you, energizes you, motivates you, and supports you no matter what.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, never forget that God stays with you even when everyone else leaves. He is stronger than whatever it is that is making you anxious right now.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, always remember that the right person will come into your life at the right time.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, always remember that you don’t need a lot of friends, you only need a few who are trustworthy.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, don’t count the number of friends you have, count the number of friends you can trust.

Irrespective of how disappointed you are right now because of the way you were treated, don’t complain about being lonely, ask God to help you find the right person knowing that after every disappointment comes a blessing.

I know you had their back when no one had theirs, you can’t help but let go of the people who are constantly trying to bring you down. You can’t help but keep away from as many people that have treated you badly in the past. You should only keep the ones who heard you when you never said a word.

I know it’s easier said than done, and I know it hurts when the ones you helped up then are the very ones kicking you right now to keep you down in your situation, you can’t help but be with someone who wants a future with you. You can’t help but, surround yourself with people who care about your happiness as much as you care about their happiness.

I know you have more questions than this letter could provide an answer to, and that’s why I want you to meditate on Philippians 4:6-7 (TLB). It says, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything; tell God your needs, and don’t forget to thank him for his answers. 7 If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will keep your thoughts and your hearts quiet and at rest as you trust in Christ Jesus”.

As you share this with someone that’s dealing with a disappointment today, it is my prayer that God will convert every disappointment in your life into a testimony. May you not suffer any disappointment from wherever you are having an expectation and may every pending disappointment in your life be turned to a delivered blessing.

May God keep you free of sadness and grief you that is reading this letter and in tears. May He honour and grant you your heart desires from wherever you have expectations. You shall be a blessing and not a disappointment to yourself and to your family.

In Him,
Ali Papa.


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Forgive Yourself And Begin Again

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that is looking back at your life in regret instead of looking forward. You that is looking back at your life and can’t identify the person that you have become. You that is looking back at your life and realizing that in a quest of making everyone around happy, you have lost yourself. For everyone that’s looking back at their lives and seeing a series of mistakes and sins, for everyone that’s looking back at 2019 and thinking that 2020 will just get worse up the same, this letter is for you. I don’t know if you are a follower, but I am glad you stumbled on this letter. It’s also a letter for me, to realize how much I have done and what I have become.

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God Will Make A Way 

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that’s tired and sort of emptied out. You that tomorrow could be the someday you’ve been waiting for. You that want answers but you’re afraid to ask. You that have seen people say to you, “I’m here for you” and then run away as soon as things start to fall apart. You that there were moments you think you won’t survive and then you survived. You that is allowing your fears to decide your future. I want you to know that whatever it is that you are going through today, they all have an expiry date.

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Stop Breaking Your Heart 

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that is lonely at heart. You that is emotionally drained and messed up. You that found yourself saying, “I was foolish. I was lying to myself.” You that no longer know if you wish to drown yourself in love, vodka or the sea. You that have witnessed things that have changed you forever. This letter is for you, you that have lost your mind trying to understand the one that said they love you.

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Go Easy On Yourself

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that have been on a long journey filled with shame (huge), humiliation, fear, hate, anger, pain (a lot), regret, insecurities, doubt, shock, tears and sadness amongst other negative emotions. You that is trying so hard to destroy yourself because of the damage done to you by others. This letter is for you also, you that keep getting hurt and feeling that nobody will ever love or care for you because you are too loud, too fat, too ugly, slow, naive, gullible, stupid, lazy, selfish, provocative or demanding.

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Stop Putting Your Self-esteem In The Hands Of Others

Dear Someone,

This letter is for you, you that is stranded somewhere between wanting them back and letting them go. You that’s wondering if you should mend it or let it go. You that is thinking that he or she is probably just the right person but wrong timing, or maybe because you’re just too messed up emotionally to be loved by anyone. This letter is for you, if you think I am writing about you. I hope that you will continue reading?

I know you want me to give you answers as to why people do the things they do. I am sorry to say that you may not get them, at least not in this letter. You won’t get them because life isn’t a TV episode in which everything gets neatly wrapped up with a satisfying conclusion.

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Get Yourself Together

I just wanted to remind you, Dear Someone, that one day, you will smile again like you’ve never been hurt. That one day, you will know what they did for you and to you and thank God they happened. Quit complaining and count your blessings one by one, especially the things you take for granted — one day, you will understand that all the NO’s had to happen in order to lead to the YES.

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You Are Not A Label

Dear Someone,

This short letter is for you, you that is crying for being bullied or treated as an outcast. You that is unable to fit in perfectly in a world full of people that thrive on negativity and trying to fit in, and stand out. You that is ashamed to be addressed by your family name because of the label placed on them by society. You that is feeling insecure and lacks self-worth because of how you are being looked down upon. You that got blocked, got kicked out of your friends’ group, ignored, and deemed as toxic, and problematic.

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Wake Up To Hope

Dear Someone,

We all have things in life that come against us in and out of season with many of them taking us to different streets of life. I don’t know which street of life your circumstances have pushed you to — fair or unfair, I want you to know that your situations are not there to kill you, they are not there to paralyze you, they are there to help you grow and build your faith — don’t fight them but learn from them.

Do your best in whatever street of life you are reading this letter from to find more reason to live your life. It doesn’t matter if you are walking alone or if it’s so long and so tiring, keep on walking till you find a place of heart to rest. It doesn’t matter if after holding and taking care of someone you love for so long, they left you in that street of life and vanish into thin air, keep on walking till you find true love — a man’s affection should not be your standard BUT God’s love for you. It doesn’t matter how many times they have played with your emotions in that street of life, waiting for you to get run over, keep on walking knowing that “the LORD is close to the brokenhearted; He rescues those who are crushed in Spirit” (Psalms 34:18). It doesn’t matter what the world is saying to you or calling you in that street of life, keep on walking because it matters what His Word says about you.

I understand that you are at your wit’s end, tired and probably can’t muster the strength to find one good thing in your life, don’t give up. Keep the faith and continue to stay the course and on purpose because the journey has yet to begin. Don’t get too comfortable in your situation thinking that a miracle can never take place — wake up to hope and fight for what you want! Don’t get too comfortable in your situation because change comes rapidly — you need to be prepared for where God is leading you to in that street of life. Don’t get too comfortable in your situation and risk losing sight of your destination — keep on walking. Don’t get too comfortable in your situation because they are temporary — they came to pass. Don’t get too comfortable in your situation hoping something better will arrive — go out and get it. Don’t get too comfortable in that situation and forget your objectives — work hard, play hard and stand strong in what you know to be the truth. Don’t get too comfortable in your situation or with the people in your life — let God bring restoration and healing to your relationship and to your soul. Whatever you do and in whatever situation you are, trust God and believe in yourself —even when you are at your wits end!

It doesn’t matter who has thrown you out or if nobody gives you a chance in that street of life, it’s time for you to stop waiting for your circumstances to change. It’s time to take action and have the God kind of faith as your escape vehicle. Allow your faith in the Lord to lead and light the way. Allow your faith in Him to overcome your worry and give birth to renewed hope. Don’t allow your faith to be shaken by adverse conditions and circumstances. Hebrews 11:6 (TLB) says, “You can never please God without faith, without depending on him. Anyone who wants to come to God must believe that there is a God and that he rewards those who sincerely look for him”.

If you are lost in that street of life, if it has become difficult to walk alone, and there is anger, frustration, and depression that you no longer can bear, if over time it has become difficult to get a helping hand from someone else’s hand, rest and allow God to help you. Whether it’s a health issue, financial challenges or a marital problem — everything you are going through today is subject to change. Don’t accept failure as your birthright. Don’t accept poverty as part of your life. Don’t accept that toxic relationship as your lot. It doesn’t matter how terrible your situation is, God is able to lead you out of it. He cannot lead you out of that “Egypt” and not provide for you in the desert. He cannot lead you out of that street of life and not walk you right into your destiny. He is the pillar of cloud by day and the pillar of fire by night (Exodus 13:21).

Wake up to hope because God’s promises are yours today. Rest knowing that God is on your side, and He has gone ahead of you to grant you protection. He is opening doors for you to walk in. He’s opening places for you to take in Jesus’ Name. Yes, He’s starting today. He’s repairing and restoring today what the enemy has stolen in Jesus’ Name. Every need would be met according to His Word. For where you must go or what you must do or what you must say, may He guide you by a pillar of cloud during the daytime and by a pillar of fire at night.

Be encouraged,
#IAmAlipapa.


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